"You look tired"

KristenS09

I have had 3 people say this to me recently (family and co-workers). Is this the polite way to say "maybe you should wear more makeup"? Am I tired YES!! I have a 5 month old and a husband who stays home with her mon-thrus but does NOTHING around the house. So yes I am tired but geez I don't think i look that bad. Vent over!

mexicolombiana

That's a rude comment.  I would respond with.  Yo mamma looks tired. 

Seriously I would be annoyed.   

itsmevkb

My MIL says this to me every time she sees me and when we talk on the phone she mentions how I sound tired.  Whatever.  I used to get annoyed by it (before I had three kids and was pregnant with another) but now I honestly don't even have the energy to be offended!

 

MandG2010

I got variations of this every single day for the first 3 months I was back at work.  My responses changed depending on my mood:  "yes, i'm tired again today"; "really! I thought I looked pretty good this morning"; "thank you"; and finally "go away".  I was told I looked "haggard."  This was harsh.  He was well-meaning I know, but geez, not what I want to hear. 

 My DH stayed home with DS for a while, and at first he didn't do anything around the house.  We had a few detailed conversations on what the expectations are, and I told him explicitly what I expect a stay at home dad to do.  I work 40+ hours a week, then take care of a baby when I get home.  All he has to do is take care of a baby.  Clean when the baby sleeps; wear the baby to vacuum; mow the lawn when I get home from work.  It'll work out.  And at some point someone will tell you how great you look.  You're a beautiful mama, with or without makeup. 

katiewhompus

My response usually is "that happens when a person gets no sleep". 

yepyepsms

Whenever someone says this to me, I always say back "really? I always feel like that's another way of saying someone looks like crap".  That usually results in the person back-pedaling into an apology or some other "well...I meant...blah blah blah."  It usually works to let them know I didn't appreciate the comment.  Or I am a big fan of PP's "yo mamma looks tired" - that made me LOL. 

TwinkieFiend

CTGirl30:

OP, we're all tired. Welcome to the club! lol

As far as the SAHP and "doing nothing around the house" goes, the days I am home with DD by myself (such as holidays when H has to work and I am the parent home alone with her), I am more tired than I am after a day at the office. If she would nap - hahahahha, excuse me while I catch my breath - I'd be laying down to take a rest, too. Not cleaning.

Maybe you two can split the difference on the chores when you're both off your day jobs in the evening (aka when the baby is asleep and you are home from the office). Or, hire a cleaning lady and take a load off both yourselves.

Ditto this.  When I spend a day at home with DS it is often more work than if I went to work!

wychets

I also think that is a rude comment especially if someone says that to you at work. I probably wouldn't mind if it was DH but anyone else might get the finger!!

redheadscu

I would tell them they look like a dumb*ss.

Margaret Lemon

Estwd2:

My answer would be "Really? Because I just took some speed and I feel super awake!"

This made me LOL!  

My LO still really sucks at sleeping. I often wake feeling like my eyeballs are bleeding. Of course, I don't actually know what that feels like, but I am guessing it is pretty close to how I feel sometimes.  

On tonight's episode of Up all night, their baby wasn't sleeping. They said they felt like they were living like kidnapped journalists. Ha! 

slwin6

I would say this,

"That's cause I AM tired!"

reb562

I'm told this every day "You look tired" I can't stand it...I know how you feel...Geez