Clicky poll: which would you choose?

AnabelsMama

My family was invited to two events on the same weekend.  Event #1: My husband's sister's baby's baptism (If it matters, it is her second baby and we went to her first's baptism as we are her godparents). Event #2: My cousin's baby shower.  (If it matters, this cousin came to my baby shower.) We were invited to the baptism two days before the shower.  Both are equal distance from us (about 5 hours drive).  I have no idea what to do.  Of course my husband wants to go to the Baptism and I want to go to the shower!!  Which would you choose?[Poll]

AnabelsMama

Estwd2:

Both. You go to the shower; your husband goes to the baptism. Problem solved.

I thought of this.  But we only have one car.  I could try hitching a ride with someone, though. 

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

I think I would go for the "go your separate ways" option, if it's at all possible. If that can't work, the Baby Shower has my vote.

jf198400

I would pick the Baptism b/c I'd think its more important to see the outside baby.  Send your cousin a gift and go visit her when her baby is born.

pdilly2b

If you absolutely cannot split it to do both, I would send a present to the shower and attend the baptism.

AnabelsMama

jf198400:

I would pick the Baptism b/c I'd think its more important to see the outside baby.  Send your cousin a gift and go visit her when her baby is born.

Yeah, I thought of this, too, unfortunately. 

ridesbuttons

5 hours away?

That's easy: neither.

KathrynMD

yeah - I think baptism wins.

Fianschneid

I like the idea of hitching a ride with someone and doing both. They are both great reasons to celebrate.

Nechie122

I'm not Christian so I could be wrong, but isn't a Baptism the "bigger" event? Five hours is a loooong drive just for a shower and unless I were really close to my cousin, I would just make sure to send an extra nice gift.

groovygrl

Going separately sounds good but if not an option, I go w/ baptism for 2 reasons- it is his sister & to me, sister (and niece/nephew) trumps cousin (and unborn child) unless there are not good feelings b/w them or something, and also b/c like pp said, I would think baptism & the born baby are more of a priority-  particularly if 5 hrs away and you don't see them often. 

AnabelsMama

ridesbuttons:

5 hours away?

That's easy: neither.

HA!  I wish! 

AnabelsMama

Thanks everyone.  Deep down I think I know that the Baptism is the right choice even though it's not the event I want to attend.  Being a responsible grownup SUCKS! 

sadie+w

I voted baptism because to me, a sibling trumps a cousin.  :-)

salt78

If you absolutely can't split them and want to attend one, I'd say the shower. It's your cousin's first baby (I assume) and you attended for your SIL the first time. Then again, I'm not big on most church related events.

skibunny59

sadie+w:

I voted baptism because to me, a sibling trumps a cousin.  :-)

This!  I am super close to my cousins but I'm sorry, if DH's sister has an event for one of her children on the same day as an event for my cousin, we're going with DH's sister.

 We actually had a baptism and baby shower scheduled on the same day last Sunday.  They were both cousins (Baptism for my cousin's baby on my mom's side and baby shower for my cousin on my dad's side)  Since they were both my cousins, we thought the baptism was a little more important so we went to the baptism and ended up sending a gift for the shower and we will visit with my cousin when she has the baby.

itsmevkb

Will there be obnoxious baby shower games you will be forced to play?  If so, baptism all the way!

Seriously though, as the godparent to a sibling of the child being baptized, and because that is a religious event, I would attend the baptism.

Angela814

I'd go to the baptism and send a gift to the shower.

NicoleWI

Either split up, or the baptism. A baptism is a bigger deal than a shower and the relationship is closer (sister vs. cousin). Plus, you got the invitation earlier as well.

mexicolombiana

ridesbuttons:

5 hours away?

That's easy: neither.

Yeah I'm with you ridesbuttons.  I'm not driving 10 hours total to go to a baptism or baby shower. 

AnabelsMama

Andalso: for the Baptism we could stay overnight with DH's sister.  For the shower we may have to stay in a hotel ($$$$$).  Another point for the Baptism.  DARN!  I do not like religious stuff. 

jf198400

I forgot this the first time I posted.  My DH's nephew and my Best Friend's daughter were baptized on the same day and we were invited to both.  Nephew's baptism was 6hrs away and required a hotel stay.  Friend's baptism was 1hr away.  We went to the family baptism.

KathrynMD

mexicolombiana:

ridesbuttons:

5 hours away?

That's easy: neither.

Yeah I'm with you ridesbuttons.  I'm not driving 10 hours total to go to a baptism or baby shower. 

yeah man - this post makes me glad my family is all nearby and we're not close w/ cousins, etc.

DTNZ4Ever

sadie+w:

I voted baptism because to me, a sibling trumps a cousin.  :-)

This

saraboston

Shower, but I'm opposed to Baptism, so I'm biased.

pitterpatter129

Baptism seems like a one-time event that can't be "made up" in any way later.  The shower you can always visit the mother-to-be when the baby comes and mail her a gift now.

 

 

Strunella

I was also going to suggest that you and your DH part ways and go to your separate events, but a 5 hour drive for both made me change my mind.   I honestly don't know what I would do...maybe the baptism.

ByGrace22

This isn't really a question. You go to the baptism and send a gift to the shower. Would you really chose a party over your niece/nephews first sacrament?

wychets

AnabelsMama:

jf198400:

I would pick the Baptism b/c I'd think its more important to see the outside baby.  Send your cousin a gift and go visit her when her baby is born.

Yeah, I thought of this, too, unfortunately. 

THIS!

Bella427

Honestly, I'd do neither.  And if pressed, I'd lie and say I was going to the other engagement, haha.  10 hour drive is too much in my book!