I dont want to fackin breastfeed!!

Natlynn73012

SOMEONE PLEASE KIDNAP ME

DD has been cluster feeding for a month straight for hours. She literally screams bloody murder from 7 at night until jesusfackincripes all night. She is absolutley inconsolable by anyone who is not me. I bathe her, feed her, change her, burp her, rock her, play with her, AND EVEY FING THING INBETWEEN. DH works long hours and by the time he gets home shes in cranky mode. He tries to console her but we know she wants the boob. I give in because guess what? I dont enjoy listening to screaming for hours on end (and she will cry until she makes herself puke) I swear I have done nothing but fight to breastfeed I pumped my ass off while she was in the nicu, fought thru tears and headaches when she refused the boob I kept pushing and pushing then when she finally came around I fought thru bleeding nipples and stupid shells in my bra for a month and now i have a monkey swinging from my tatas who only wants to be there for comfort.

someone give me a glass of sangria & a blunt. 

(and I dont even do weed)

rMe6411

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Have you tried a binky??

DemoDoll

That's exactly how Brooke was about a month ago but it wasn't just at night, it was ALL day and most of the night! I would literally nurse her all day with a 20 minute break or if I gave her formula. I wanted to give up on BFing SOOOOO bad! I loathed it, dreaded it, wanted nothing to do with it!

Well the LC and some bumpies on this board told me to break her latch with a paci and bounce her, swing  her, do whatever it takes to keep her sucking on that paci. I found what helped me was to put the paci in (when we were doing full skin on skin) then letting her face still kind of push up against my boob like she was BFing. Eventually she would fall asleep and I could put her in the swing. I did all of this over the weekend and she was a crabby little baby for the WHOLE weekend but after 2 days she was fine with only nursing 15 minutes per side. I felt like a whole new woman!! 

She still has a fussy time like clock work at 5 pm and can last anywhere from 8-10pm. I just remind myself that this is her fussy time, She won't be fussy if I nurse her but I don't want to get back into that habit so I only nurse her until I know she is done eating, then it's off the boob. 

Oh one other thing that works for us when I know she is tired and fussy (not just fussy), we do the Happiest Baby on the Block. We have the DVD and it was worth the $10 on Amazon. It truly does work!

HoneyBunn24

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I'm sorry you're going through this! I'm assuming she doesn't take a soother? It might be worth it to try a few different kinds if you haven't already... Miles is the same way, if it weren't for his soother he would nurse 24/7.  

This. I know it's everywhere that soothers aren't to be introduced for 4-6 weeks, but at 1 week DD would nurse until she was full and then drift off to sleep still latched. I would break the latch and she'd sleep for a minute then wake up screaming. I'd put her back on and she'd fall asleep instantly. We tried the Tommee Tippee soother that came with the starter pack I was given and she hated it, we got the MAM soothers and she took them right away. She doesn't use it all the time, but sometimes she just needs a little extra comfort to calm her down enough to start to drift off to sleep.

I love breastfeeding, and I know that my supply issues are my own fault because of the bottle and soother and breast combo I've got going, but I can't do what you're doing - I can't be a human soother, it's exhausting and I tip my hat to you for doing it.

Natlynn73012

we have tried using a soother about 3 different ones. one specifically designed to be like mama. I guess ill keep up with the pacifier and cut her off after 20 minutes of nursing thanks girls.

punkrockabye

HoneyBunn24:

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I'm sorry you're going through this! I'm assuming she doesn't take a soother? It might be worth it to try a few different kinds if you haven't already... Miles is the same way, if it weren't for his soother he would nurse 24/7.  

This. I know it's everywhere that soothers aren't to be introduced for 4-6 weeks, but at 1 week DD would nurse until she was full and then drift off to sleep still latched. I would break the latch and she'd sleep for a minute then wake up screaming. I'd put her back on and she'd fall asleep instantly. We tried the Tommee Tippee soother that came with the starter pack I was given and she hated it, we got the MAM soothers and she took them right away. She doesn't use it all the time, but sometimes she just needs a little extra comfort to calm her down enough to start to drift off to sleep.

I love breastfeeding, and I know that my supply issues are my own fault because of the bottle and soother and breast combo I've got going, but I can't do what you're doing - I can't be a human soother, it's exhausting and I tip my hat to you for doing it.

The LC I've been seeing every week actually suggested a pacifier. Granted, she mentioned that LO is very good with nursing and taking a bottle and that nipple confusion may not be a thing for her, but she suggested we try one because LO just really likes to suck and it can help prevent spit up. But mainly, it was because she has the moments of fussiness especially in the evening that most babies have, and crying and being mad uses up their energy. We need LO to gain weight, so keeping her from freaking out and burning calories is important.

She gave us a Gumdrop pacifier (the brand, not the knockoff) and said it was important to use one that makes their lips flare out at the base (as if they were nursing) rather than just being straight. I can't explain it well, but you will see what I mean if you look at a Gumdrop or Soothie.

bigbootyjudi

DS hates anything that feels like a boob. He wants the bottle feel. That said, he hated the Close to Nature pacifiers that we got as a shower gift...so maybe try those?

It sounds miserable...I'm so sorry. I hope you can find something that works so you can get some kind of a break! Do you give her bottles at all? Maybe go out to lunch with a friend and leave H is charge. She might cry, but you need to get out! She'll be fine with a bottle and some daddy time. Maybe that's the problem...that he's not the one soothing her so she isn't used to him. SO had a rough time putting Sergio to bed when I first went back to work because he was used to me putting him to bed. It'd take him two hours to do what I do in fifteen minutes. Now, they've found their groove and he can get him to sleep in fifteen too.

yvdukana

I'm right there with you. BFing has been such a struggle for me, and now I have vasospasms and possible thrush on top of everything. My DS BFs all.day.long, seriously, no joke, from 7 am - 10 or 11 pm on for an hour to an hour and a half, off for an hour, and then repeat. It's exhausting. He won't take a pacifier, we've tried every kind, the only one he will take for about a min or two is the Soothie on the Wubbanub. I thought we had turned a corner and things were getting better, but now with the vasospasms, I'm in such pain by the end of the day I can barely pick him up and hold him. I'm at a loss and so is my LC, I hate to treat thrush if it's not really what I have, but ugh, I just don't know what to do anymore. Isn't BFing supposed to be some awesome enjoyable, bonding experience?