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Pregnant after a Loss
Rude much?
Someone today said this to me after i told them it was twins...
"are you scared you might lose these ones too?"
Oh, the nerve.. I got home and cried for hours.. So much for a good day.
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Re: Rude much?
God, that is something that someone may think, but shouldn't say! I can see if someone really close to you, like a mom, a sister, or a best friend is checking in to see how you're feeling about things, but use some compassion and sensitivity, people.
*hug*
First pregnancy - blighted ovum, miscarriage at 10 weeks, Apr./May 2012
Second BFP 9/19/12 - Hoping for our Rainbow Baby!
Are you kidding me? There should be a line we could get into to throat punch that person.
I honestly cannot believe that someone would actually say those words out loud to another person.
I am *so* sorry you had to hear that. Big ((hugs)).
BFP#1 11/12/11 ~ No heartbeat 12/12/11 ~ D&C 12/19/11
BFP#2 3/25/12 ~ Heartbeat 141 4/16/12 ~ No heartbeat 4/25/12 ~ D&C 04/30/12
BFP#3 7/16/12 ~ EDD 3/26/13 ~ It's a BOY ~ DOB 2/26/13
BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
BFP #1 5/4/11 EDD 1/12/12 natural m/c 5/17/11
BFP #2 8/9/11 EDD 4/18/12 ectopic pregnancy (methotrexate) 8/24/11 ruptured tube and removal 8/29/11
BFP #3 3/9/12 EDD 11/19/12 Logan born 11/18/12
~*~*Everyone Welcome*~*~
BFP 4/18/12, M/C 4/27/12 at 6w6d
BFP 7/1/12 - Counting down to our little girl, EDD 3/8/13
BFP #1 - 8/28/11 -- MMC at 11w2d - Discovered at 13w5d on 11/7/11 -- D&C on 11/11/11
BFP #2 2/3/12 - EDD 10/15/12 - Born 10/16/12
TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby
We lost our first (EDD 07/23/12) after finding out at 12 weeks there was no longer a heartbeat. Our rainbow was born 05/22/13 and was worth all we went through.
“So can you understand? Why I want a daughter while I’m still young? I wanna hold her hand and show her some beauty before all this damage is done. But if it’s too much to ask, it’s too much to ask … Then send me a son.” – Arcade Fire
I hope that you told them how hurtful that comment was.
I am sorry you had to deal with that.
EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves
Cycle 9: BFP 5-3-12:EDD 1-24-13 It's a girl! Born 12-27-12
I am so sorry, that is awful! People really do not know what to say. I had a dental hygienist the other week asking all kinds of questions about Grace's birth....it was bizarre. I refuse to say this is my first baby, so I always tell that we lost our first daughter, Grace, last May halfway through my pregnancy. Anyway, most people just say I am sorry, and then we talk about this baby. The dental chick wanted to know all about delivery, how big she was (like she held out her hands - "like this big?" "or this big?"), what she looked like, etc. I don't ever mind talking about Grace, but I literally had just met this person and it was really weird.
Just try to remember that people have no clue what to say most of the time and take 99% of what they say about this topic with a grain of salt.
Hugs,
Jenn
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
Cycle #1(08/2012): Clomid 50 mg CD3-7, Ovidrel CD13 + Progesterone = It worked!
BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
BFP #2: 08/23/12; EDD: 05/04/13 ~Please stick little one!!! DS born 05/09/13 at 40w5d
BFP #1: 05/05/12; EDD: 01/01/13; m/c: 05/21/12 ~Forever in our hearts~
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THIS!!!
Why the hell would someone say that?!!!? I'm so sorry sweetie, try to blow it off. Your babies are healthy and that's all that matters. I do however give you credit for not punching that person in the jaw, I'm not sure i could have held back.
{{{hugs}}}