In case you haven't figured it out yet...

Scramblersmom

I am often socially inept. I do not mean to be, but the harder I try, the worse it sometimes gets. So, a friend of DH's and mine at the University ran into DH and told him that her friend just had a baby and if we had anything to spare then she could really use the stuff as she is broke right now. I jumped all over the situation as I was thrilled to pass on DS's things to someone who really could use them. It was a priority on my list to get all of his old things packed up and ready ASAP for our friend to pick up and it was the first chore I completed this weekend over laundry, cleaning, etc. I just really wanted to help this person.

For the inept part...I sent our friend an email with a short description of the items I packed up.  One of the first items was sleep sacks. I put in parenthesis that "these cost about $20 a piece and they are the safest for sleeping". I realized tonight that this could be construed as me saying "Hey, these are worth a lot of money and I am giving them away for free so you had better appreciate it" when what I was trying to say is "Geez, these things are expensive and I do not know how anyone can afford them for the first year. They are the safest for sleeping in so it is a shame that they are not more affordable. I am glad someone else can use them since DS only used each size for a couple of months". I am not even sure if what I wrote here to explain is any better but hopefully you get the picture. I do this more often than not and even when I try really hard sometimes I just write it wrong.

I also told my friend that everything was packed up so she could come get it this week. She is recently divorced and has 2 kids of her own so this may have been a burden on her to come to our house to get these things. I could have just as easily delivered them to her friend's house or her house...so again, in retrospect, I probably screwed this up as well.  

I have a question and comments:

1.) I want to send her another email to explain what I was trying to get across. Do you have any suggestions so I don't frvck it up more?

2.) If my comments come across that I seem like a total bush please remember that I usually am not and do not mean to be (except when I call my friend's kid an ahole but I do know he is just a little boy and his really bad behavior is his parent's fault not his so I guess I don't really mean it when I call him an ahole).

3.) I drank a glass or two too much of wine so I am now going to bed!  

Thanks for reading and giving any suggestions you can offer. 

LCass

What if you just send another email saying you'll be near her place on ___day (even if you won't) and will drop the stuff off then, if it's convenient for her.  And at the same time you can make your point about being glad that these things will get more use (but try not to bring up money; I'd say just focus on the fact that you and your son got enjoyment/good use out of them and hope that she will, too, because it would be a waste for them to not be used more).

Chunstad

LCass:

What if you just send another email saying you'll be near her place on ___day (even if you won't) and will drop the stuff off then, if it's convenient for her.  And at the same time you can make your point about being glad that these things will get more use (but try not to bring up money; I'd say just focus on the fact that you and your son got enjoyment/good use out of them and hope that she will, too, because it would be a waste for them to not be used more).

This, well said. 

I sometimes put my foot in my mouth, and later as I'm rethinking my converstation, I'm like "why the hell did I say that?"  It's frustrating, but she might not have even picked up on it the way that you are thinking.

Firebird3akaFF

Hopefully she won't read into the comment too much. If I were her, I'd think, hey COOL! She's not giving me crappy stuff! Haha, but maybe that's just me.

It didn't sound that bad, it might make her focus on it more if you try to expain what you meant KWIM?

Offering the items is such a nice thing for you to do My mom works with a woman who has a passion for collecting and redistributing baby clothes, according to age, from people she knows. We've gotten box after box and return them to her when baby has outgrown everything. If it's something I bought new, I give that to her too. It's fun to look through all the "new" things she gets to wear.

Scramblersmom

Thanks everyone for making me feel better. It sounds like I may be over thinking this too much. I will just tell her how glad I am to pass these things along to someone who can use them. It just blows me away how many large trash bags I filled with his clothes even though I had already taken a large bag to Goodwill several months ago. DH was shocked! He said that there is no way we would have filled that many bags with the clothes we bought and wore in one year!