***PgAL Check-In***

Mrs Nice

Hello Ladies,Welcome to Thursday PGAL Check-In! I hope I find you all well and positive this week! If you have any questions you would like answered, please don't be shy! You can also ask the PAL ladies. Bake, little buns, bake! How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

weddedwife

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?

28 6. Baby is a pumpkin.

Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?

29 weeks on Friday. Next appt is Tuesday.

QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?

He's made more of a deliberate effort this time, I think because Nathaniel was gone so suddenly and we hadn't really taken the time to do all the things we did while pg w DD, it being a 2nd pg and all. We hadn't taken belly photos, he hadn't really been talking to my bump, etc. we really just took it for granted that we'd have more time for that later. We had maternity / family photos scheduled for 4 days after he died which we obviously had to cancel.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
I'm counting down the days left of bed rest, days til my cerclage comes out, etc. At the same time I'm trying to enjoy the one on one time w DD because everything will change at some point and I know I'll miss the time w her.

xxswebbxx

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week? 14 weeks. Lemon

Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones? Nothing this week.

QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time? My DH is so disconnected but still supportive if that makes sense. His feelings are he will be happy when he has his baby home with him.

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I've been doing Carly Marie's Capture Your Grief project this month so I've been thinking alot about Olivia & our loss lately.

astraight15

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?I am 9 weeks 1 day and baby is the size of an olive. Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?I have another appt on Monday with my OB and my NT scan is scheduled for the 23rd.  QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?He is definitely much more attentive towards me.  When I was pregnant with Addison, it didn't really register with him until I started showing.  Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?I have been thinking about Addison a lot and I have had a few breakdowns.  It's been really difficult for me because my SIL is due any day with a girl.  I have a difficult time listening to everyone talk so excitedly over their baby that I have distanced myself from my family for a bit.  It makes me even more emotional and angry that this had to happen to us.  I just miss my precious angel so much:-(

Lavender&Lillies

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?

I am 8w3days today and our baby is the size of a raspberry.

Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?

We had another appointment on Monday and were able to see baby again. It is so wonderful to see that little heartbeat.

My OB agreed to see me every 2 weeks, so I have another appointment on October 18th. I also have an appointment with a specialist on November 1st for an ultrasound and to make a plan for this baby.

QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?

My husband is being very supportive. He plans to come to all of my appointments this time (we have already had 3). I know how bad he wants this baby too, but I know he is also very nervous.

 Open Topic: What is on your mind this week?

 I am really missing Braxton and worried about his 6 month angelversary which is coming up in about 3 weeks.

Also, I am so thankful to be pregnant again and hopeful that this will be our take home baby, but also cautious and nervous about everything. 

*My grandma wrote these three words for me in my birthday card as part of her wish for a great year ahead (she doesn't know that I am pregnant again)- "Anticipate- Dream- Expect". I felt like it was perfect. 

I hope you are all having a great week! 

jbranden12

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?I will be 13 weeks tomorrow. Coming up on a peach!
Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?We just passed Patricia's 6 month birthday. We didn't do anything special, but I thought about her all day. It was painful to think of how big of a deal it would have been if she were born alive. Half a year old!QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?It's definitely different. Last time, he ran to the library as soon as we found out and got a bunch of books on pregnancy and development and cookbooks for pregnant women (he does all the cooking!). We would read the weekly updates from each book every Sunday and talk all the time about what would happen once the baby got here. This time, we haven't cracked a single book and we don't do a lot of talking about March. We focus on today. I listen to the heartbeat on my doppler almost every day. Sometimes he wants to listen, sometimes he doesn't.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?Just keep going! Today I broke out my first pair of maternity pants that I wore with Patricia. It hurt a little to think that the last time I wore these, Patricia was alive and we were so happy. But I can't afford to buy all new clothes so I'll have to push through.

philfemgal

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?I will be 16 weeks tomorrow--orange going on avocado.Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?We have our anatomy scan on Thursday--excited/nervous/anxious/looking forward to that. QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time?We have both been forcing ourselves to connect, in some ways more than I did last time.  I think my wife is at about the same level as last time.  I think for both of us it is different this time because even though the baby is still abstract to us, we actually know what a baby at 14 weeks and 18.5 weeks looks like.  So even though at times I feel not that connected to the baby, I know what it would be like to lose the baby at this point, and that makes feel more like it's all real.  (It also makes me very scared and anxious.)
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I've been sort of freaking out last week and this week and I suspect it will only get worse for the next 2.5 weeks.  (I really, really hope there is some small sense of relief when we pass 18.5 weeks which is when I went into labor last time!)  I just keep waiting to go into labor at any minute.  We have been listening to the baby's heartbeat on our home doppler everyday, which is very helpful.  But still, I am just a big ball of anxiety.  I just had to pee two times in like 40 minutes and suddenly thought "Oh God--that's something bad.  I don't know what, but it's clearly bad."  Or it's just the baby being on top of my bladder or at worst a UTI.  Then 5 minutes after that in the shower I noticed some bumps on my arm that aren't usually there.  Again "Oh God--it's measles, it's some exotic disease that's going to kill the baby."  Or it's just some pimples.  I can't wait for the next 2 and a half weeks to pass!

nuttycoconut

How far along are you? What size fruit is your baby this week?

 22 weeks 4 days, 2 papayas

 Do you have any upcoming appointments or milestones?

I had a great fetal echo scan on Friday. Saturday was my loss milestone, which I posted about on PGAL. Today I'm more pregnant than I've ever been. 

QOTW: How is your SO connecting with this pregnancy, has it been more or less of a connection this time? A little less at first. But he's been kissing my belly and telling the babies he loves them lately. It's becoming more real to him that we may bring them home (in carseats instead of urns). He really wants me to name baby boy (baby girl has a name) to feel a stronger connection. 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Registering for my shower and refinishing my childhood furniture for our girl. Trying to be happy that I passed my milestone instead of upset that these babies will forever be older than their siblings.