sons behavior strange

Bigmama00

Hello I'm new to the board and Im in need of some advice,

I have a son who is 21 months old he is a twin. In the last several months I slowly have started to notice a change in his behavior. He has become a very whinny and "stressed out" child. His attitude will change at the drop of a hat. One minute he will be cuddling with me on the couch watching super why and one small thing happens that will set him off and cause him to get mad. He does his high pitched yelping sound, he will try and swat at you, and he will not let you touch him. I'm actually the only person who can get him to calm down and even then that only lasts for a few minutes. Some nights it takes DH and I hours to get him to go to sleep. He will scream and scream and when my husband holds him tightly to his chest BOY DOES HE HATE THAT! he screams and tries to free himself like my husband is sufficating him. He gets so fustrated over small things, like when he cant take off his socks he will start to freak out and scream.

I thought that maybe because I stayed home with him the first year of his life that his strange behavior was due to his new change in being in a daycare but its been since january! Im starting to wonder if I should take him to see a specialist. Some nights when he screams like that I just cry, I don't know how to help him. I try to comfort him as much as possible I love that little boy with all my heart. I don't know why he freaks out like that and gets so angry and fustrated so easily. My husband and I don't argue or fight in front of him so I dont know where this angry behavior comes from. It's just so strange that one minute hes my sweet little boy giving kisses and hugs and in the snap of your fingers hes freaking out. Is this normal terrible two behavior?

sugar212

I am sorry, I can't help you but it really does not seem normal. good luck, I really hope you find answers. I would call the dr, but that is just me. 

Bigmama00

My husband said he talked to some people at the hospital and the miltary makes you join a program called champs. After you fiinish the program then you get to see the special doctor about the issue. I just hope its not a lengthy process we will be PCSing in january

smiling76

MrsPM:

Some of that behavior sounds like normal 'terrible twos.'  DS will start to whine/squeal at the littlest things now. 

I would definitely talk to the doctor if you are concerned though.

ditto that--- however, for DS1 we realized that parts of it didn't get better--and he's in multiple therapies including speech and occupational therapy, which is helping with the sensory issues.  It is quite possible that your son has some sensory issues.  Some are just hypersensitive to sounds, touch, etc.  There is help for that though. 

Bigmama00

smiling76:

MrsPM:

Some of that behavior sounds like normal 'terrible twos.'  DS will start to whine/squeal at the littlest things now. 

I would definitely talk to the doctor if you are concerned though.

ditto that--- however, for DS1 we realized that parts of it didn't get better--and he's in multiple therapies including speech and occupational therapy, which is helping with the sensory issues.  It is quite possible that your son has some sensory issues.  Some are just hypersensitive to sounds, touch, etc.  There is help for that though. 

I never would have thought of sensory issues but now that you mention it I can think of several instances where he does not like loud music or too many people near him at one time

Smgrochowski

Bigmama00:

smiling76:

MrsPM:

Some of that behavior sounds like normal 'terrible twos.'  DS will start to whine/squeal at the littlest things now. 

I would definitely talk to the doctor if you are concerned though.

ditto that--- however, for DS1 we realized that parts of it didn't get better--and he's in multiple therapies including speech and occupational therapy, which is helping with the sensory issues.  It is quite possible that your son has some sensory issues.  Some are just hypersensitive to sounds, touch, etc.  There is help for that though. 

I never would have thought of sensory issues but now that you mention it I can think of several instances where he does not like loud music or too many people near him at one time

I second the possibility of sensory processing issues. When you mentioned him getting frustrated about socks and not liking being held tightly, it made me wonder this. Maybe you could keep a log for a week or two about what sets him off (if you can tell) including time of day, who else is involved, etc. You may notice a pattern and, if you decide to consult a doctor, this information may help them decide if it's something more than terrible twos. 

Good luck!