Irrational?

pnutg

I always used to be so happy for people after finding out they were pregnant. Not anymore. I had a missed m/c in June and 2 days before my DC my best friend told me she was pg. I knew they were trying. Well now everytime I even think about her pg I cant help but think I would be 5 weeks ahead of her. I dont want to see to her, or talk to her....its horrible. Thankfully she moved to another state see what I mean? Im messed up. We all know its not fair that some lose their babies and others go on to have no issues, but I shouldnt feel this way. My mom lectured me about avoiding her while she was in town over the wknd...i had horrible m/s and was in no condition to hang out. No one knows Im pg again, not even my mom. She would really think Ive lost it if she knew I was expecting and STILL had a hard time being around my pregnant friend. After what Ive been through Im thrilled for women who conceive after infertility or losses..thats easy. But everyone else, even my friend its a real challenge. Im only sharing because I cant with anyone else. DH also thinks Im irrational. Can anyone else relate to these feelings or do I need serious help? :

pnutg

Bumping from my phone and it ate a lot of my punctuation, sorry.

Allycat11

I can completely relate.  I still get angry to see people being so naive about their pregnancies and I hated seeing women who were due around my EDD.  Recently I thought I was doing better until I saw a woman with her newborn at my OB's office and the baby was about the same age as my first LO should have been.  It does get easier but don't be too hard on yourself now. 

AudUy

I can totally relate. You're not irrational, you're a woman who experienced a pregnancy loss. This is something that few who have not experienced a loss will understand but I think you will find a ton of people who get it on TTCAL and PgAL.

frogs007

I still hate pregnant women.  Like have irrational anger towards people that haven't had losses/fertility issues and can pop out babies whenever they want.  I kind of thought that would change when I got pregnant again, but it didn't.  I think it's normal.  Anger is a part of the grieving process and if you're like me you'll deal with the different stages over and over again.  My advice is to just give yourself time.  Don't hang out with anyone that you don't feel like hanging out with.  It doesn't have to be rational because it's how YOU feel and those feelings are very valid.  Hugs.

PhoenixBritt

I feel the same way. My EDD is coming up and I can't help but feel anger towards the women I know who are having babies right now who had no issues getting pregnant.

pnutg

Im glad some of you can relate and that Im not just being a witch. Hoping these feelings will disappear soon enough.