Would you go OOT w/o DH on a holiday?

sunandsand · October 2012

My DH works retail and can not get off work near a holiday...like, ever. We stay in town for every holiday and take 1 trip per summer to visit family.

My mom wants me and the kids to take a 4 hr drive trip with her to see nearby relatives for Thanksgiving. We would leave that morning and be gone 2.5 days.

On the one hand, DH would not have his kids on Tday...but his sis and fam are in town and he would go there.

On the other hand, he is working Fri/Sat.

I initially said no, because no one helps with my 3 year old, who may have ADHD, so he is into everything and doesn't sit still. Their idea of helping is holding my baby. But she keeps asking and I am considering...

ccm1203 · October 2012

Probably. Depending on how DH felt about it and it's Thanksgiving, not Christmas.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2012

I would. My DH worked in retail management for a while and we regularly celebrated holidays a few days before they occured and he had the day off. Not Christmas, but anything else probably.

With that being said, it seems like a tough situation for you to travel 4 hours with 2 children--one with special needs and another child under 1. I may hold off until next year especially considering your family isn't really helpful with your older child.

andyyougoonie · October 2012

I wouldn't. I hate going out of town without him. We were in a long distance relationship for 3 years - I had enough of that. Plus, I think it would be really sad to not get to spend holidays with your kids.

lildevil968 · October 2012

I wouldn't. DH and I have both had to spend the holidays away from our kids at one point or another, and it really sucks.

RayRay007 · October 2012

Oh yeah, I would. When I was on mat leave for a year, I took DD to my parents' cabin 4 hours away for a few days at a time several times. It was usually during the week while he was working anyway. Now we're both working, but I get 2 more weeks of holidays a year than he does, so I'm sure I'll plan to do something without him again sometime.

ETA: I guess it being a holiday, and having your hands full with two kids, might be different.

MexiCali · October 2012

Nope. Thanksgiving is a very family oriented holiday for me. H and my kids are now my immediate family and I would prefer to be with them. I also think my H would say it's fine and then just be hurt deep down.