Is it just me that feels this way?....

StarJoe

I had a baby 7 weeks ago and my mother -in-law visits every weekend and when she's not visiting she calls (sometimes several times a day). When she's here I can't stand that she constantly wants to hold my baby. I literally have to hold myself back from grabbing her and telling MIL to leave. DD is her first grandchild so I understand the need to want to always be around but I think it's to a fault (she is always sick and wants to come over as soon as she feels better not when she is better).

Am I wrong for feeling this way? 

avanvorce

 

Nope I feel this way every day and MIL lives with me!!!   I am having a very difficult time not being rude to her and I want to grab my baby from her every time she holds him.   I feel like my parenting is being judged even though she never says anything.  I don't want to talk to her about every detail like how he slept or how many dirty diapers he's had.  I know I prob sound like a big B and am being rude but I want time just me and my baby or just the three of us.

Mrs.RockyM

Nope, and you have every right to say something to her (or have DH say something to her) about how you need time to bond with the baby too and how you aren't having anyone over for the next couple of weekends. 

StarJoe

YES that is exactly how I feel and exactly what she asks every time. I'm at the point now where she doesn't call me directly because I told DH I have no time to talk to her when he's not home (and she doesn't really say anything other than "hi, how ware you feeling, did you eat, how's the baby, did she eat").  ?? I kind of wish she would just move away!

katieh1017

No, I feel that way around MIL but I have never liked her. When I am around my mom I have no problem snatching the baby back if I feel like it. I feel uncomfortable around MIL and for some reason, even though she's my DD, I don't feel comfortable doing it. When we visit them it's like they kidnap her and I don't get to "see" her as they kind of hog her. It's hard to explain and probably hard for others to understand. We were going to the ILs every weekend and I told DH it needs to stop and we can go every other weekend. L goes to DC as it is and weekends are our time to spend with her.

kderham

Set the boundaries early or you won't get the chance! I told my family that my husband and I needed time to learn how to be a family and take care of ourselves. While we appreciated their love for our son, it wasn't a good time. I would also educate her (not in a mean way of course) about how fragile a baby's immune system is. My son got a virus at 8 weeks. We had to take him to the hospital and they almost had to do a spinal tap (standard procedure). Its not worth the risk. If grandma really loves LO, she is going to have to do what is best for him/her.

PD0323

Unlike most people, I actually love my MIL and she still drives me crazy. I'm glad she cares but occasionally just needs to back off. If you have a decent relationship with her, I would just tell her how you feel.  

melody921

I would feel that way no matter who it was. You need time as a family of three, without always having to entertain another relative or answer a bunch of questions. You and your DH should just tell her that you need/want some time just with you, and also that she can't visit if she's ill.

sk8erdevil19

Definitely feel the same.