I don't find my husband attractive anymore.

immabust

I feel awful for saying this because it sound shallow, but it feels like he just let himself go after we got married. He gained a bunch of weight, he rarely shaves, he lets his nose hair get to the point where they could blend in with his mustache, he is constantly burping loud or farting, which grosses me out. Yeah, everyone does that, but he is extra annoying with it.

It is hard to get in the mood to have sex with him when I am usually grossed out. I have tried talking to him about this without hurting his feelings, but nothing changes. 

I'm not the prettiest girl ever and I, too, have gained some weight, but I try to look nice for him and I don't feel he does the same for me. 

hopecounts

Could you work on the weight part together?

as in "honey I want to loose a few pounds and it would really help me if you did the diet with me." Then y'all make healthy menu plans and keep junk food out of the house and you'll both be healthier. I bet after he looses a few and starts feeling better from it he'll be more inclined to over all take care of himself.

as for shaving and other maintenance maybe point out how attractive he looks clean. Shaven right after  he does shave. I mean knock it into his head "you look so good with the beard gone" "it's so sexy when your all shaved" etc.