Poor movie choice!

chucktgirl

Just got back from vacation. Thankfully it mostly took my mind off our TTC issues. That is, until the plane ride home. I always look forward to the in-flight movie to pass the time. Guess what movie was playing? You got it: What to Expect When You're Expecting. Ugh. Hubby had to unplug his headphones, it was so upsetting. For me, it was just a pre-curser of the week to come. I am currently scheduled for another saline sonogram Tues to make sure the unknown mass is still there, then I'm scheduled Thurs for a Hysteroscopy with D&C. I have NEVER had surgery of any kind before, and I am petrified. The hospital called me today to go over pre-op instructions with me. If this is such an "easy" surgery, then why do I have to remove my belly ring? Why do I have to bath myself with Dial Antibacterial Soap for the three days prior?! Honestly, Hubby and I talked tonight about cancelling them both and just going ahead with the IVF, ignoring the mass. That was initially one of the options the RE gave us, but he advised doing the surgery instead. I am starting to feel that skipping the surgery is the better option for me. It will definitely release some stress! Sorry...late night rambling. Hopefully the answer will come to me in the morning. Good night, ladies!

Mrs.McIrish

Don't just ignore the mass. That isn't wise at all. You are going through a lot of steps for IVF to try to get a good embryo that wants to live in your ute. Why would you let something you know about possibly evict that baby? If you have a miscarriage, will you be happy then that you skipped the surgery??  How would that be for stress? As for the surgery, it isn't a big deal (says the girl who had anesthesia 6 times this past year, including a hysteroscopy with d&c for polyp removal). No prior surgeries ever prior to this year either.  Even though it is pretty easy, it still has to done properly so that you don't get an infection. Is a belly button ring and some soap really a big deal in the scheme of stuff? You are being silly. 

HeatherIcon

I had the hysteroscopy with D/C before my second IVF. It was painless and fine. I was up and out of there within one hour and went home with no pain or complication. Really, I think the prep and fear is worse than the procedure. There was no pain, no cramps and it was not scary.

I would do it again if it meant a healthier environment for an embryo.  At this point I would do whatever it takes to make a healthy infant.

Mayzie15

Both pp hit the nail on the head I just wanted to add if we are all lucky enough to have a baby at the end of this journey you have to go through labor not an easy task. Good luck with your surgery. Hope all goes well and you can move on to IVF with peace of mind knowing you did everything to give your embryos a fighting chance.

chucktgirl

Thanks for the input, Ladies. I've had a bad weekend. Lots of emotion and little sleep. I realize I should do everything possible, but lately it seems like every time a doctor goes searching in the dark, he/she comes up with some new random diagnosis/disease/whatever, which I don't always believe in. Ignoring the tiny centimeter mass was an option the RE gave us, saying it wasn't a polyp, and there is still plenty of room to grow a baby. The choice was ours. Funds are already depleting, so these two tests alone this week will probably be another grand. Money is a legitimate factor. I know my fear may sound silly to you, but frankly, my fear of exploratory surgery is very real to me, and is not to be dismissed, particularly with the high level of anxiety it is causing me. Remarkably, I don't fear giving birth. I guess everyone is just different. I have decided to do another saline sonogram. That way, maybe we'll learn more about the unidentifiable mass. Thanks for your support. I'll report back with results Tuesday.

HeathernSteven

Taking out the belly ring, and cleaning with antibacterial soaps are all just procedure. The hospitals and clinics can't say jewelery is fine in these procedures but not in those, its a "everything comes off" in every procedure, it reduces risks of problems. Often you can't wear nail polish because they watch your finger beds for discoloration indicating a problem.

There are risks involved in every procedure, the hospitals are going to "CYA" well theirs so don't let the preparation for a procedure dictated your decisions, those are just precautions against the worst possible scenario...let the benefits versus the cons dictated the need for the surgery.

Good Luck in which ever choice you make!

Snapdragon333

I agree with the other ladies.  You want your body to be as healthy as it can be so you can have a healthy pregnancy.  But I hear what you're saying about having the fear of surgery.  I had surgery last April for endometriosis removal, it did give me some peace of mind though knowing that maybe our problems would be improved/solved. 

I also can relate to your worry of depleting funds, it is becoming so stressful planning it all around money.  The minute I feel caught-up, another bill comes in the mail (I'll be getting a huge one any day now).  

Every time I see previews for that movie, I cringe.  It just reminds me of our current problems.  Dh jokes about renting it because he knows how much I despise it...I laugh because I know he doesn't want to see it either.      

I hope you get good news from the saline sonogram!

chucktgirl

HeathernSteven:

Taking out the belly ring, and cleaning with antibacterial soaps are all just procedure. The hospitals and clinics can't say jewelery is fine in these procedures but not in those, its a "everything comes off" in every procedure, it reduces risks of problems. Often you can't wear nail polish because they watch your finger beds for discoloration indicating a problem.

There are risks involved in every procedure, the hospitals are going to "CYA" well theirs so don't let the preparation for a procedure dictated your decisions, those are just precautions against the worst possible scenario...let the benefits versus the cons dictated the need for the surgery.

Good Luck in which ever choice you make!

<sigh> Yes. It all just struck me as so scary, when everyone keeps telling me "it's no big deal!"...sounds like a big deal to me! So this is what I did today: I bought my Dial antibacterial soap-- but I got the foam kind in Pear scent! (It was all they had) But somehow it felt much less clinical and like it gave me a little control back. I'm still hoping I don't have to go through with the surgery, but I will prepare, just in case! Thank you!

chucktgirl

Snapdragon333:

I agree with the other ladies.  You want your body to be as healthy as it can be so you can have a healthy pregnancy.  But I hear what you're saying about having the fear of surgery.  I had surgery last April for endometriosis removal, it did give me some peace of mind though knowing that maybe our problems would be improved/solved. 

I also can relate to your worry of depleting funds, it is becoming so stressful planning it all around money.  The minute I feel caught-up, another bill comes in the mail (I'll be getting a huge one any day now).  

Every time I see previews for that movie, I cringe.  It just reminds me of our current problems.  Dh jokes about renting it because he knows how much I despise it...I laugh because I know he doesn't want to see it either.      

I hope you get good news from the saline sonogram!

Thank you, Snapdragon, I really feel like you read me very carefully. I guess sometimes it just feels good to have my fears and concerns aknowledged. I really appreciate it!  Oh, and the movie wasn't THAT bad. I only teared up a couple times.

ellajune2012

They were showing that movie on the plane ride back from vacation a couple of weeks ago, and it was seriously so upsetting I had to turn it off.

Like others have said, don't ignore the mass! I totally get the scary surgery thing - I never had surgery in my life until this year and was terrified, but it was the best thing I ever did for myself. Also... they would make you remove your ring for any surgery... when I did CPR training we were told we had to remove people's jewelry from the area even if we were just using the AED (that machine to restart people's hearts... metal and electricity = burns). So I'm guessing it's a just in case kind of thing - they have to account for anything. That and if I remember right they put little sticky electrodes on you to monitor you while you're being operated, so it might interfere with that (I don't know this, just guessing). The antibacterial soap -- they're just taking precautions to make sure everything is sterile. A lot of what goes on in hospitals is about making sure every remote possibility is covered. Try not to let it scare you (I know, easier said than done)