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PSA: do NOT tell people your final name choice

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in February 2013 Moms

Last night I told my brother the name we've chosen.  He said it was terrible.  Now I feel bad and am second guessing myself.  I know I shouldn't, he is entitled to his opinion and I didn't say emphatically that this was our FINAL name choice, but I still am upset about it.

So -- remember, don't tell people unless you want opinions!!

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    PnkDingoPnkDingo member

    Oi, I could say the same about POSSIBLE names. There's a user on here that has her son's name in her ticker, Colton Thomas. My dad is Thomas and I really like the idea of using his name as a middle name, and those names together just flow, so Michael and I have been throwing it around as an option (he originally liked Cole as a name, since hearing/reading Colton I prefer the nickname Colt, but this is a win/win if we decide to use it because it's so similar)

    Anyway, to the point, I mentioned it in passing to my mom with about 3 other boy's names we're thinking about and she's decided she's in love, so that's his name, lol. I love that she's excited because she was really hoping for a grand daughter this time (my sister already has 2 boys), so I just gently remind her each time she calls the baby Colton that it might not end up being his name. 

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    ellephuntellephunt member
    I'm sorry. That stinks. We aren't telling people names until baby is born for the same reason. Then people are more likely to STFU.
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    CocoR04CocoR04 member
    I haven't had any issues with people's reactions to our LO's name.  Maybe it's because we've gone with safe classic names, so people probably find it boring :)
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    amandajamandaj member
    We had the same thing happen with me step mom and dad. It sucks to have someone actually laugh and say wow that's weird when you tell them the name. The good thing is they are the only ones who have given us negative feedback. 

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    versace1008versace1008
    I 100% agree, wait until the baby is born, looking at the baby will keep them more occupied and not make any comments!
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    MrsJellyMrsJelly member

    I have a friend who told her dad and bro's the name they picked for their LO and the response was so negative!! She was upset, but all her friends supported her and she ended up sticking with the name they had picked and it is the PERFECT name for him!!

    ALSO...another reason NOT TO TELL! Another friend told her neighbour the final girl & boy names they had picked out for their first baby. She was 8 months pregnant at the time of this conversation and didn't know the sex of the baby...2 weeks later her neighbours got a DOG and NAMED IT HER FINAL PICK FOR A GIRLS NAME!!!!!! 

    Some people!  

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    MrsJellyMrsJelly member

    imagedanielledahling:
    Maybe it's just me, but I don't care if people have a negative reaction to the name we chose for our child.  I'm not swayed by other people's opinions and neither is my DH.  If they don't like it...too bad for them.  We chose it because we love it and that's all that matters to us.

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    KansasFarmMommaKansasFarmMomma member
    We specifically aren't sharing Allie's name with anyone for that reason. I have 4 friends that know and that's IT. They are moms my age with young kids & kids on the way so we all pretty much feel the same when it comes to commenting on other people's name choices. We had SOOO many negative comments with Maverick's name. We actually had people tell us our child was going to hate us for naming him that. We are just skipping the drama this time!
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    PnkDingoPnkDingo member

    Was it you that liked Alaska (Allie as a nn, I'm guessing, if so), because I remember reading it somewhere on here early on and though it was really unique and pretty.

    I love names in general, and pretty much all names, from highly traditional old-fashioned to new weird youneek names that seem to be highly unpopular, mostly because I've known people with names from all categories, and their personalities are so across the board that I can't imagine them named any other way!

    Ultimately there are names I'd never in a million years even consider for my child, but it doesn't mean I dislike the name as a whole, just don't think it would suit anyone in my family. I don't judge adults for their names (except the one time I met a woman named Phallus. Ishityounot. But it was less judging her and more "Dear god, you poor, poor thing") so I don't know why people judge baby names.

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    chulita425chulita425 member
    imagedanielledahling:

    Maybe it's just me, but I don't care if people have a negative reaction to the name we chose for our child.  I'm not swayed by other people's opinions and neither is my DH.  If they don't like it...too bad for them.  We chose it because we love it and that's all that matters to us.

    ETA: This is not a negative comment towards the OP, just my thoughts about it.  To each their own!

    This is how I feel too.  

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    KansasFarmMommaKansasFarmMomma member
    imagePnkDingo:

    Was it you that liked Alaska (Allie as a nn, I'm guessing, if so), because I remember reading it somewhere on here early on and though it was really unique and pretty.

    Yup. Her name is Alaska Lynne
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    budgirl007budgirl007 member
    Thomas is a family name for us too...it's my FIL's name and DH's mn. :)
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    ljburrelliljburrelli member
    I think most of us can relate in some way!  We are also not sharing our little guy's name (once we decide).  Too  many opinions with his big family!!!
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    imageKansasFarmMomma:
    We specifically aren't sharing Allie's name with anyone for that reason. I have 4 friends that know and that's IT. They are moms my age with young kids & kids on the way so we all pretty much feel the same when it comes to commenting on other people's name choices. We had SOOO many negative comments with Maverick's name. We actually had people tell us our child was going to hate us for naming him that. We are just skipping the drama this time!

    i love the name Maverick. It's on my list too and I'm sorry you had negative reactions. I just asked about this name on the baby names board yesterday.  

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    imagenuttycoconut:

    imageKansasFarmMomma:
    We specifically aren't sharing Allie's name with anyone for that reason. I have 4 friends that know and that's IT. They are moms my age with young kids & kids on the way so we all pretty much feel the same when it comes to commenting on other people's name choices. We had SOOO many negative comments with Maverick's name. We actually had people tell us our child was going to hate us for naming him that. We are just skipping the drama this time!

    i love the name Maverick. It's on my list too and I'm sorry you had negative reactions. I just asked about this name on the baby names board yesterday.  

    I should have clarified that after he was born we never heard another negative comment. I think once people could actually see him & call him by name it made it not so out there. You have a lot more guts that I do posting on the name board. I don't ever post any of my name choices because they would rip them apart. I had to comment on the thread btw.

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    twirlyjack73twirlyjack73 member
    Great warning, sorry you hadn't been warned.  I'd been lucky enough to be warned about this by a friend.  I don't know why people feel free to disrespect your name choice, yet after the baby is born they won't do it (at least to your face).  There's always going to be someone that says 'oh i knew a so&so with that name & she was a b_tch' or something like that.  like duh keep your dumb obnoxious thoughts to yourself. 
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    denison2denison2 member
    This is why I love these boards- I can share my names and not have to worry about having someone I know see and judge. I saw my mother last weekend and told her we absolutely were not sharing our names, but that we had picked them out. She said "aww, why not? I am sure I will love them!" I then told her some of our favorites that we didn't pick, all of which she bashed. I said "yeah, that's why we won't tell you the real ones". 
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    Jaci85Jaci85
    We named our baby girl Mary Kate I have gotten a lot of ... "from Full House?...and Ashley Olsen??" ... I'm like no....just wanted a southern double name with Kate and Mary ended up working and it was my roomate's name. Plus I am catholic so Mary was great hahhaa. Not a fan of Mary by itself but loveee Mary Kate : ... I say go with what YOU love. My best friend thinks my name is boing.
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    imagechulita425:
    imagedanielledahling:

    Maybe it's just me, but I don't care if people have a negative reaction to the name we chose for our child.  I'm not swayed by other people's opinions and neither is my DH.  If they don't like it...too bad for them.  We chose it because we love it and that's all that matters to us.

    ETA: This is not a negative comment towards the OP, just my thoughts about it.  To each their own!

    This is how I feel too.  

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    GraceIsa4110GraceIsa4110

    We our telling everyone what our little girl's name will be and haven't gotten anything but positive feedback.

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    ohlordyohlordy member

    My family poo-poo'ed all the name options we threw out for boy and girl. Nothing crazy, just too "old fashioned".

    Family .... suck it. My baby. Not yours. Their negative reactions don't make me second-guess our choices.

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