not baby-related--how did you....???

mamablase1

LO is just over 4 mo now and DH and I have only had some fun in the bedroom a couple times. For those of you who have gotten back in the swing of things, how did you get back in the mood??? I've done like a complete 180 and DH is getting along the best he can and not pressuring me   But I feel so bad for him and I really want to get back in our groove....

joshandpanda

IDK how it all of the sudden kicked in for me, but man, did it ever!!!

Honestly... I think it is better now after having our son haha... (maybe not once he starts to walk/talk/and want to sleep in our bed at night though lol)

don't pressure yourself into it and don't think about it when it does happen... a lot of it is mental (IMO) 

littleredfish

joshandpanda:

IDK how it all of the sudden kicked in for me, but man, did it ever!!!

Honestly... I think it is better now after having our son haha... (maybe not once he starts to walk/talk/and want to sleep in our bed at night though lol)

don't pressure yourself into it and don't think about it when it does happen... a lot of it is mental (IMO) 

I agree. DD sleeps in our room so we've only had sex in the shower so far. At first I was SO not interested at all, but I knew DH was so I kind of just figured "whatever, lets just do this and get it over with" but it was much better than I expected.

I also agree that it feels better now for the most part. Now sometimes I still feel like I'm not into it (too tired or what not) but go ahead anyway, and the foreplay is usually what gets me in the mood. 99% of the time I'm not the one to engage it but I do enjoy it once we get past that point.

Jess & Drew

littleredfish:

joshandpanda:

IDK how it all of the sudden kicked in for me, but man, did it ever!!!

Honestly... I think it is better now after having our son haha... (maybe not once he starts to walk/talk/and want to sleep in our bed at night though lol)

don't pressure yourself into it and don't think about it when it does happen... a lot of it is mental (IMO) 

I agree. DD sleeps in our room so we've only had sex in the shower so far. At first I was SO not interested at all, but I knew DH was so I kind of just figured "whatever, lets just do this and get it over with" but it was much better than I expected.

I also agree that it feels better now for the most part. Now sometimes I still feel like I'm not into it (too tired or what not) but go ahead anyway, and the foreplay is usually what gets me in the mood. 99% of the time I'm not the one to engage it but I do enjoy it once we get past that point.

This is us. I've also found that the more we make "us" time, the easier and easier it is to get into it. The first couple of times though were nothing to brag about, and if I had a watch on, I probably would've been checking it thinking "is this over yet?".

joshandpanda

littleredfish:

joshandpanda:

IDK how it all of the sudden kicked in for me, but man, did it ever!!!

Honestly... I think it is better now after having our son haha... (maybe not once he starts to walk/talk/and want to sleep in our bed at night though lol)

don't pressure yourself into it and don't think about it when it does happen... a lot of it is mental (IMO) 

I agree. DD sleeps in our room so we've only had sex in the shower so far. At first I was SO not interested at all, but I knew DH was so I kind of just figured "whatever, lets just do this and get it over with" but it was much better than I expected.

I also agree that it feels better now for the most part. Now sometimes I still feel like I'm not into it (too tired or what not) but go ahead anyway, and the foreplay is usually what gets me in the mood. 99% of the time I'm not the one to engage it but I do enjoy it once we get past that point.

thats another thing... have fun in more places than just the bed!!! like red fish... in the shower! thats always a good time!!!

on the couch, in the kitchen (just be sure to clean up lol) or where ever!!! have fun with having fun and it'll be fun! (wow... didn't realize how corny that sounded till i read it back lol) 

LER091811

I was just forcing myself for his sake for a while but now I've gotten back to my old self

alexandrineblanc

I'm so glad to read all those comments "i'm not the only one!". I feel terrible because I have no interest in that! I really feel bad for DH as I know he wished to have more. I'm in real pain...

joleine

Wine. a lot of wine.