What are your thoughts on October 15?

Bayberry12 · September 2012

I have been reading about Oct. 15 "Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day" and just wondering if anyone is doing anything special on this day?

We were invited to a candle ceremony at a local hospital, but will not be going. I think I might like to post a simple photo of the ribbon or a burning candle on FB, but haven't found the "right" image yet. While I do believe that my daughter is in heaven, I am not too big into the angel baby or mom of an angel idea, so I'm looking for something simple. I have not posted anything on FB since her death, so this would be a pretty big step for me.

Are you doing anything to recognize this day?

tuscanbride2007 · September 2012

I have a really good friend who is holding a birth story night at local baby boutique for pregnancy loss moms that night. I was the one that suggested she do it on that day (she also holds regular birth story nights). I am debating whether to go. I have never told my full story to anyone. It might be a good step toward my healing.

Mrs Nice · September 2012

I was thinking about posting Ian's birth story on TBs birth story board as well as FB. He does have a birth story after all, it just didn't have a happy ending. I don't want sympathy from anyone but I want to help create awareness of still births and infant loss. I don't know how well it would go over tho. I just know there are bound to be the same stupid comments made that we all hate. ("everything happens for a reason", "he is in a better place", etc...) But my hope would be that if ppl knew what I went through then maybe it will help them understand "the new me" a little better. Does that make sense?

jbranden12 · September 2012

tuscanbride2007:
I have a really good friend who is holding a birth story night at local baby boutique for pregnancy loss moms that night. I was the one that suggested she do it on that day (she also holds regular birth story nights). I am debating whether to go. I have never told my full story to anyone. It might be a good step toward my healing.

I think this is a great idea! I think it really helped me to talk about Patricia's birth with other moms. I also wrote it down a few weeks after.

Bayberry12 · September 2012

I think sharing birth stories is a beautiful idea. I found it to be such a release sharing my story in my support group with other moms and writing it down.

Mrs Nice · September 2012

This is what I posted last year on FB:

October 15th is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Rememberance Day. MYTH: A parent who has lost a baby wants to forget it ever happened and moved on with their life. TRUTH: In the words of Elizabeth Edwards, "If you know someone who has lost a child, and you're afraid to mention them because you think you might make them sad by reminding them that they died--you're not reminding them. They didn't forget the

y died. What you're reminding them of is that you remembered that they lived, and...THAT is a great gift." Today we remember babies who were born asleep, or whom we have carried but never met, or those we held but couldn't take home, or the ones who made it home but didn't stay. Make this your profile status if you or someone you know has suffered the loss of a baby. BREAK THE SILENCE. IN MEMORY OF ALL LOST ANGELS??