My aunt/Liv's babysitter (in her early 50s, mom's younger sister) said last week to me that very soon DH won't be able to change Liv's diaper anymore. I frowned not understanding...she added "well she's a growing girl!" End of discussion but I understood what she meant.
The other day, she mentioned "she's a grown little girl, daddy can't change her diapers anymore." I again didn't comment on this.
Not sure how I feel about it. I understand she's a girl but I guess I never thought of it. Or giving malice to it. She's his daughter, for crying out loud! I'm sure DH hadn't either. What's wrong with this picture? I haven't told DH about my aunt's comment. Not sure if I don't want him to feel.... offended?
Thoughts?
Re: thoughts on this?
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Blaine Emerson Bailey Rae
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It really upsets me, actually, when people sexualize young children like that. My opinion is that by saying things like this we're creating a very unhealthy attitude for our children about their bodies. I get that we need to be cautious and protect our children, but like you said, he's her dad. And I think part of our job as parents is also to protect them from growing up to fast. So, while we should teach them that only certain people should help them in the bathroom/change their diaper, is it really healthy for a toddler to realize that she should cover herself up and feel embarrassed if her dad walks in while she's taking a bath? (I'm not saying she would realize this right away, but at some point she will).
So, I don't really know if you should tell your DH or not. I guess that depends on whether or not it will make him uncomfortable caring for your DD around your aunt. I would tell my DH, but it would be to commiserate about the craziness of my aunt's opinion.
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I agree that DH will be changing her and bathing her until she doesn't need it anymore. He is the one who gives her a bath nightly if he didn't she wouldn't bathe but once or twice a week.
I also don't get why people feel the need to say things like that. I agree with chucafina in that people tend to sexualize things like that too much. At a certain point he will not see her naked but that is years to come.
I agree with all of this 100%. I would ask your aunt that if your LO was a boy, would that mean you (and her since she's a female) would have to stop changing his diaper at this age???
It was really weird. Next time, I am going to reply to her and tell her to stop giving meaning to something so natural as a father taking care of his daughter. It made me upset too but I am honestly more polite (than I put off) and so I also didn't want to offend her by discounting what she was saying. But it's even more clear to me now: such comments were just ridiculous. I totally agree with you Chuicafina. I also don't know how some people sexualize children at such a young age. She's lived in the Philippines all of her life except the last 1.5years and so I wonder if the culture had anything to do with her thinking. You're all probably thinking 'what kind of culture is that with malicious thinking?' I don't know but I do know men over there are perverted.
Anyways....thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I am probably going to mention it to DH soon. Because we share everything. I feel like he deserves to know. I know he'll probably just shrug it off though.
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