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Loss of a Twin
Hi guys,
This is my first pregnancy, I just found out yesterday (21 weeks pregnant) that I lost one of my fraternal twin boys. I had no symptoms or anything, so this was pure shock. (My last appointment was 2 weeks ago, and everything was looking great). They found no heart beat and no movement. I am feeling a lot of mixed emotions. I am very upset over the loss, yet thankful that I still have one healthy baby, but nervous that the same will happen to him. The doctors had no explanation for what happened and why..They checked his placenta and everything looked healthy. I have heard that this happens alot.. It is just very hard to deal with.. Has anyone ever gone through the same, or have any advise for coping? 
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Re: Loss of a Twin
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your family.
That's awful
Make sure you visit the loss board and seek out support there, too 
I haven't been through anything similar... being around the same gestation, I can say that I empathize deeply, and the pain you must feel would be overwhelming for me.
I don't know about late-loss of a twin, but I do believe that the surviving twin has at least a 60% chance of going to term, and they will reach the realm of viability much sooner than that - so take comfort knowing that the odds are good that your fighter baby will make it into this world.
I am so terribly saddened to hear about your loss. I truly hope that you have all of the support and love you need right now, and I wish you the very best for your little one.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.
One of the ladies I work with lost a twin around 24-26 weeks and she went on to have a healthy baby girl who is now 4 years old.
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(((((((HUGS)))))))))) I am SO sorry
The best advice I was given is to grieve how YOU feel it's necessary and that you will never get over your loss, but you WILL get through it. I lost both my twin boys at 18w during my first pg. but it was a little different. Lots of love and be kind to yourself.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. I've heard the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board has been a great source of comfort for many ladies who have gone through a loss.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and will send lots of T&Ps for a healthy rest of your PG.
((BIG HUGS))
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I lost a triplet in the early second tri, like you I had no change in symptoms and no indication anything was wrong until our a/s. It was heartbreaking. There is a group that deal with the loss of a multiples but also specifically addresses the loss of one or more in pregnancy. I found the stories there helpful https://www.climb-support.org/
I'm very sorry for you loss. It's a horrible situation to be in, I hope the remainder of your pregnancy goes well.
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Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. I have posted on a few boards here for support. You ladies are great. I am taking this day by day at this point. I know there is nothing I can do about it but try and keep my boy healthy and strong until he is born.
I am definitly going to check out the link above, It does make me feel a lot better to know that I am not going through this alone, and there are other people who have been in my shoes and can help walk me through this.
hugs an good luck to all of you throughout your pregnancies!!
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After 10 weeks of bedrest, our two little ladies joined us at 28w6d
I haven't ever posted on this board, but I hope it's okay if I comment. Before I comment I just want to give you a warning. I ended up losing both of my twins, BUT it was a super rare disorder (trap sequence) which you definitely do not have. They were a special circumstance and I don't want to freak you out when you see my siggy.
I am so so sorry that you lost your precious boy.
I lost one of my twins at 21 weeks. We did have an explanation, but that's a long story. I just wanted to tell you that I'm sorry. I've been in the position of carrying two babies and only planning on bringing home one. It sucks. I had a lot of people tell me, "well at least you have one healthy baby!" < Which I was grateful for, but having one child doesn't make up for losing another. From what I understand and what I was told when we lost Porter, your other twin should be fine. The fact that they're fraternal helps with that. Obviously you should address any questions or concerns with your doctor.
As for coping- I would highly suggest that you visit the loss board. Let yourself grieve and feel whatever you feel. I know for me that I didn't truly mourn the loss of Porter until Isaac passed away. I was in project mode and focused on keeping Isaac safe. Don't feel guilty if you are focused on getting that other baby here safely. Everyone's grieving process is different. Sometimes all you can do is take it one day at a time.
T&Ps for you and your family.
frogs007---I am very sorry for your loss as well, I am feeling a lot of ups and downs. One minute I am crying my eyes out, the next I feel that everything is going to be okay, and the next I am more nervous for the twin that I have left.. this is just such a rollercoaster of emotions..All of the posting on here and friends and family are definitly helping me feel a little better though. But I know the feeling won't ever truly go away.
Its just hard to think that a few days ago I had two happy healthy babies, and all of a sudden that was taken away from me with no warning signs, nothing.
Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. i really do appreciate it.
If you need to vent or anything PLEASE feel free to email me- kimberlyjpalmer@gmail.com.
It's definitely not an easy process. I agree with the pp about the Pregnant after a loss group, I'm sure you'll find some support there too. Hugs. I'm so sorry again that you're going through this.
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My heart breaks for you, and I am so, so sorry.
If it helps to ease your worry about the other one... my sister in law is happy, healthy and well, even though she'd had a twin who was lost at around 18 weeks.
I'm so sorry.
While not the same situation, I did just recently lose baby #3 at almost 20 weeks. I started spotting at 17.5w and it never let up. Even though everything looked fine at the anatomy scan at 18.5w, I just knew something was wrong. The final answer was chorioamnionitis, or a placental infection. Anyway, just wanted to share my story and offer ::hugs::.
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