I see this so much - on these boards and elsewhere. People getting concerned because others "will be offended" if not invited to ____ event.
I feel like it's getting to a point where *I'm* offended that people are offended!
The bigger picture of this- it just seems like people are becoming more and more self centered. They think the world revolves around them and if things don't happen to their exact specifications, they get "offended".
I just see all these "they'll be offended if not invited" problems as one aspect of the bigger problem of people being selfish. It doesn't matter that someone wants a small party/wedding/shower - all that matters is that YOU should be invited, no matter what that means for their guest list.
Re: "They'll be offended"
When I see someone say that so and so will be offended if not invited, I usually ask myself, really? Will they really be offended or are you just speculating as a way to justify invited more people to your shower to get more gifts.
I can't imagine every being offended at not being invited to a baby shower of a disant cousin. A sister, yes, but that's different. I was not offended when my childhood BFF did not invite me to her wedding 3 hours away.
I agree with you but, eh, people are weird. I know I have an aunt who MUST be included in EVERYTHING. If she isn't invited to something, she's deeply hurt, and throws a fit...it's kind of ridiculous. I find people like that are overly sentimental and want to be included in the "experience"...Again, ridiculous.
I do agree it's like people have to make everything about them nowadays.
I don't think I have been offended by not being invited somewhere.
I mean, I might have hurt feelings, particularly if I am the only one out of a specific group to not be included, but it's not something I'd say I would be offended over.
I think the word "offended" is incorrect in most of these situations and the correct word should be "hurt". I know for a fact my mom was hurt she wasn't invited to my cousin's wedding shower (although she was invited to the wedding - which of course she didn't know at the time). My mom has always been pretty close to my cousin. I wasn't invited either and just thought it was weird...but oh well.
It has been my experience that some people get their feelings hurt if they are not invited and most of them are the older generation...maybe 50 and up. Maybe they feel they are not "worthy" or that "the guest of honor doesn't like them" - who knows...but they are hurt if they are left off the invite list.
Personally, I would rather have someone think I'm gift grabby by inviting them rather then have someone have hurt feelings by being left off the invitation list. JMO