Living with Parents?

chefnicole22

Do any of you live with your parents? And if so, how do you handle it? 

I recently moved in with mine and don't get me wrong, I am so thankful for everything they do for me! But, the nagging gets to me. It's mostly about how I do things with my LO. They don't understand that things have changed since they've had children so whenever I do something new for them they get upset bc I survived childhood with them, so why change things? Also, it is hard to have the house spotless and dinner figured out by the time everyone gets home since my LO is only a newborn, but they don't understand that. They think I'm just at home doing nothing all day, but I'm trying really hard to do everything I can for them during the day since I feel bad for living with them.

I just miss living on my own and being able to support myself. Is there anything you guys do to help with living with your parents? Or just to relax/help with stress? 

sunflwr0911

I moved back in with my parents over two months ago after living on my own for 10 years.  They have been awesome with the support they have shown me and my DS.  That being said, it definitely is an adjustment!  It's hard not having my own space anymore.  And I had to leave all my stuff behind, so I miss my familiar things.  So I understand where you're coming from.  I don't have much advice other than to try not to stress about it and talk to them about how you feel.  They are your parents and they will always love you (just like you'll always love your LO) and the more they know about how you're feeling, the easier it will be for you all to work on this new living situation.

Good luck! 

monpetitechouchou01

You are not alone! I moved in with my parents as well so I understand. ITs an adjustment for sure. TOday however, I had an epiphany and I remembered what someone said to me before my baby was born. They said that I'll be getting lots of advice from people telling me what they think is best with my baby... and to take it and do with it as I please but to not let it bother me because in the end I know best. This is true. I was just getting upset about someone telling me that I should try to do this and not that and stop this and do this .. It was beginning to get overwhelming. So I finally stopped and said "Ok. Don't get upset. Say ok thanks! And then do what you feel is best". ITs not easy getting anything done when you have a newborn and your parents might just not remember. So do your best and let them know that! Right now just concentrate on sleeping whenver you can because you need that rest. IT'll only make you irritable if you're trying to clean and cook and make the house spotless when you're exhausted! GOod luck

UberBiz

Do you have plans on going back to work? After I moved back in with my parents, it was a matter of months (My daughter was about a year old) before I had to find a job and not stay home; my daughter went to daycare and I paid rent to my parents. I helped buy groceries and other household items that I needed and didn't expect my parents to buy for me (shampoo, clothes, etc.). That kind of takes the whole responsibility pressure off a little of what they expected me to do around the house since I wasn't home all day doing "nothing." I know it's hard with an infant, especially if you are breastfeeding, it's hard to get away.

chefnicole22

I am glad I'm not alone here! Although I'm sorry you guys have to live at home too if you don't want to. I do plan on going to work and have been searching for jobs. Luckily I was able to save up enough money that I don't have to rely on them for anything other than a place to live. I still feel bad though, like I am a burden, even though the assure me they are happy I am here. And I know they are happy about seeing their granddaughter every day So that makes it a little easier.

PrincessFiona9

I wouldn't worry about it that much. I think you are just thinking that they are thinking bad things about you, when really they aren't. Don't sweat the small stuff. You shouldn't have to clean up after them, just make sure yours and LO's stuff is taken care of. Maybe take an hour out of your afternoon/evening to fix dinner once in a while. Honestly I was already back to work from my maternity leave by the time I had to move in with my parents, so I wasn't expected to do anything besides buy my own stuff and clean up my own messes. After we moved into a bigger house I was expected to pay them rent. I just moved out again after living with my parents for 2 years and it is nice to not have any guilt or expectations!

MamatoA2010

I am living almost full time with my parents and 2.5 year old DD. I've been going through a divorce for 15 months and have been living with them ever since. I don't mind though. They are wonderful and are willing to help me and DD if and when I need it.

fivefeetsmall

I'm 17 weeks pregnant and had to move in with my parents about two weeks after finding out. I lost my job because I hadn't been there long enough to get on short term disability and I may have MS. Plus, the Dad bailed. I've had a lot of complications. It is so frustrating living here. I love them and am happy that I have their support, but my Mom acts like I'm not appreciative if I don't do everything her way. My Grandma also lives here and between her and my Mom they act like I should be able to do everything they did when they were pregnant. If I have to hear "well I worked full-time, cooked, cleaned, and took care of other kids when I was pregnant" one more time I think I might lose it on someone. My Mom will act annoyed that I have to take a nap in the middle of the day. I mean...it's not like I'm seeing a neurologist and a high risk doc just cuz I thought it would be a cool idea. I can certainly understand your angst and I fear that things will only get worse once I give birth. Right now I just try to help out when I feel like I can and hope that it is seen that I'm making an effort.