This week a yr ago...

karebear57

I stopped feeling Brianna move. I started freaking out by that thursday and sat.night when I went to bed I felt 2 movements and then the next 2 weeks I felt bh's and thought all was well. I thought to myself, I wouldn't be feeling them if she wasn't ok. Never once did I go to the doctor, something I will regret the rest of my life. But I'll tell you this, I will NEVER make this same mistake again.

 

pottermommy

Don't blame yourself love.  How many times are we told that the baby quits moving near the end?  That they settle down?  It isn't something you can know or be prepared for. 

Huge hugs the one year angelversary is so hard, and the buildup is just as hard as the day.

kikibelle

Aw, I definitely know this thought cycle : /

HUGS 

Mrs Nice

I was in denial when I stopped feeling Ian move. I never in a million years thought that something so horrible could happen to me. Be gentle on yourself. There is no way you could have known. Big Hugs!

Bayberry12

pottermommy:

Don't blame yourself love.  How many times are we told that the baby quits moving near the end?  That they settle down?  It isn't something you can know or be prepared for. 

This exactly!  This is such a myth.  And I don't know how medical professionals can continue to tell people this.  It makes me so angry that I believed the midwife who said that to me (and all the other woman).  Kick counts are so important and they were never mentioned at any appointments.

I was also in denial when Stella stopped moving because "babies stop moving when they are ready to be born", what a bunch of bs.

I am so sorry you are sadly replaying this horrible day.    

tuscanbride2007

HUGE hugs to you today. I remember the same thought of knowing something was wrong but just chalking it up to her slowing down because it was the end of pregnancy.

karebear57

Thank you ladies. This is gonna be a real shity couple of weeks, I just really hope they go by fast. I am so sorry any of us has to be here, but I'm also glad that none of us is alone. ((Hugs)) Thank you.

jbranden12

Another "in denial" here. I wish I would've known more about kick counts and patterns of movement. Patricia was extremely active on Sunday before she passed away that night or early Monday. I wonder now if she may have been having seizures or trying to tell me something was wrong. I truly don't blame myself because I know I cannot be sure of what the outcome would've been if I had gone in that afternoon, but I still wonder.

OSUWifey09

I was a little in denial when I stopped feeling Devon move, thinking that he was just running out of room. It wasn't until after I drank a Dr. Pepper - something that always makes him wiggle - and I felt nothing after 20 minutes that I knew something was wrong. I still went to the hospital thinking I was being paranoid; it never really crossed my mind that he could be gone until after the OB confirmed it. 

As others said, please try to be gentle on yourself over the next couple of weeks. Lots of hugs. 

a&aw12707

Huge hugs to you!

Carolee

pottermommy:

Don't blame yourself love.  How many times are we told that the baby quits moving near the end?  That they settle down?  It isn't something you can know or be prepared for. 

All of this - although I know it's easier said than done.  I wrestle a lot with this myself.  Thinking of you and your precious angel this week.