stupid bday party question but....

jc&cat

So the invitation list for this jumpy place bday party. Trying to keep it small but understanding that he is now old enough for him to decide on the pals to invite to the party. I'm not so crazy about some of the school kids...

There are 3 boys he was in preschool with last year. They did a fair amount playtime over the summer, each others bday parties, etc. Really, 2 of these kids I can do without. They play very aggressively and are into super hero stuff, video games (yup, age 4) and I see DS pulling away from them b/c he doesn't share those interests. DS has more in common with the 3rd boy of the group but it seems like a tight trio now with DS on the outskirts. Don't get me started on the moms of the 2....

Do I invite all 3 boys? Do I invite just the one boy? He attended bday parties for all of these kids so far. He is not in class with them this year but they still see each other. I think I have to go with all of them or none OR do I just let the little friendship fade? These are not life long friends here but they are his play mates.

ldcoffel

That's a tough call. I would be tempted just to let the others fade away and just bring the one. If others ask, then just say, "we could only do one friend this year." And leave it at that.

On the other hand, it's his birthday. Let him have his day, then quit doing play dates. 

jlw2505

Just because your child was invited to a party does not mean you have to invite them to yours.  I hate that train of thought.  If your son is not friends with these boys or is pulling away, don't invite them.  As far as the 3rd boy, if your son enjoys playing with him and they are still friends (as you would plan a playdate outside of school) then invite him.  I am assuming you are inviting X number of kids and if anyone asks, it is simple - you and your son decided who those kids would be and not everyone can get invited.