Small Vent

Foster1Mom

When Little J came to us he had a diaper rash/yeast issue. It is 99% cleared up.

After visitation today the case worker was asking about it and how it is being handled etc. Mom is not happy it is not gone. I know that the rash is not the issue behind the unhappiness but it really chaps my ass that there is an insinuation that he is not being taken care of properly. I need to stop being sensitive and know it's not my issue and that he is very well taken care of.

Vent over. Thanks 

srmmm09

I can definitely understand why you'd need to vent about that! Glad you were able to get it out.

greenteabee

That would make me mad too.

elissaann26

Oh the fun of foster parenting!  We had a horrible diaper rash situation too when Zucchini was placed with us.  The BM kept commenting on it too!  I wonder if it is a way for them to get a better idea about the care that is being provided. albeit incredibly passive/aggressive.  Hang in there!  And keep venting if needed!

crene84

How frustrating!  My HR rep told me the craziest stories.  She used to foster.  Her oldest child (now 16) was foster to adopt.  She got her when she was only 8 weeks old.  The BM had left her at a homeless shelter and was on drugs, etc but she kept fighting to get the baby back.  She would complain to social workers about everything she could think of like the baby not wearing enough pink...seriously.  And apparently the system had to investigate every complaint, no matter how ridiculous it seemed.  Fostering takes some tough people!  I'm not sure I could do it, but you're awesome for it!

ctbride08

vent away - it can be very fustrating and we understand!

I would just remind myself that complaining was really one of the few "parenting" things she could do at the time...and the fact that she cared enough to complain was a blessing (in disguise!).

jmoka7

That would totally upset me as well. I was told during my PRIDE classes that some parents may complain about every little thing they can to make themselves look better. It's like they want someone else to do something wrong with their child so the reason they lost their child to CPS doesn't look so bad. Hang in there! 

DaisyZH

I'm sorry, that would really bother me too.  You're doing a wonderful job, feel free to vent anytime.