Anyone with 2 under 1?

VeniVidiScripsi

If so please let me know how your thoughts on it

Quiverfull Momma

It's been a few years, but our 6th and 7th little ones were both under 1 for a few months.  I was nervous at first, but once we got into a routine after the first couple of weeks home things settled right back into place.  I really enjoyed it once the adjustment period was over, and even though they're 3 and 4 now they're exceptionally close.  Our last several have been 14-16 months, but I'd love to have another 2u1 pairing again someday:)

kcisthebombdotcom

We didn't have 2u1, but we only missed it by a few weeks as my kids are 12.5 months apart. It worked really well for our family for a number of reasons, both personal and financial. I thought some of the benefits of it was getting lots of rest during my second pregnancy with my firstborn taking 3+ naps a day still (this wouldn't work for you unless you're a SAHM though) and my older child being too young to care when we brought his sibling home. They have a really close relationship now and share a lot of toys but that would likely be the case even if there were an extra year between them.

I think with some women with brand new babies, they miss being pregnant and want to have a second one right away for that reason. If that's the reason why you're thinking of 2u1 I wouldn't do it personally. It's a big commitment and I don't think families should go for it solely because of baby fever.

GL with whatever you decide!

michelle04us

I will be having 2u1 for about a month. I have a 3 month old son and will have a new LO when he is about 11 months. We did not try for our newest bun in the oven. We were using protection but 1 time of forgetting to put it on before it was too late resulted in a surprise for us. We were planning on trying when DS was about 6 months or more. It took us 8 months to conceive him so we figured it would probably take some time for the next. We were wrong. 

I'm not worried too much about having 2u1 since I am fortunate enough to have a supportive DH and 2 older children who are great with their new brother and can help out with the small things. I'm only worried because I had a c-section with DS and I'm afraid of my incision rupturing later in the pregnancy.

Would I have purposefully had 2u1? No. But sometimes things happen for a reason. 

VeniVidiScripsi

Thanks ladies. We aren't trying but letting fate decide when the next comes, so I just wanted to know how others find it.

MechanicMama1

Just to let you know it's easier to get prego right after you have a baby... Trust me it only took us one time I'm also a 2 under 1 to be

VeniVidiScripsi

Thanks! And congrats!

MrsEllis10

I have 2u1. Well for 9 days at least. It isn't hard, but is by no means easy. I honestly wouldn't trade it for anything. I am a SAHM so I'm not quite sure if it would be hard juggling a job and 2 kids very young so that is something to consider as well. DD1 is super sweet to DD2. I think we may wait a year or 2 and then do 2u2 again. Then we will be done most likely. Good luck!!

VeniVidiScripsi

I agree, I think it would be harder if I wasn't a SAHM for sure!

Thanks everyone for sharing!!

jinnymb

Mine are 15 months apart but I agree with what the PP said about missing being pregnant vs. missing a newborn.

After DS1 I still had baby fever and we started trying right away.  I loved being pregnant so I was happy about that and my pregnancy wasn't bad having a baby at home.  We napped together etc..

However, I was completely overwhelmed with having a newborn and essentially a baby at the same time.  I struggled a lot with guilt and managing the two of them. DS1 was too young to time out, to really play by himself, and wouldn't even watch a tv show yet.  It was very difficult to nurse and entertain him. 

Now they are best of friends and we couldn't be happier!! However, I did decide to space the third one 2 years from my youngest.  It is just so much easier when they can communicate more and listen better, and can entertain themselves.  I found it so much easier to manage the 20 month-2 year old age range vs. early toddler. My friends who spaced that way didn't seem to struggle as much as I did.

I have also found that since I waited longer this time, my hormones are not as crazy and I'm actually excited for snuggling a baby, now just being pregnant ; )

Good luck either way, and that is my experience, just do what is best for your family!!

Nita2603

Mine are 11 months apart, number two is two weeks old. While it is hard sometimes, it is nice that we do not have to deal with jealousy, that DS1 still takes two solid naps and that they are so close that a close relationship between them seems likely.

It is hard though to have the older one there and not being ale to reason with him yet - he doesn't understand that mommy has to change little bro's diaper now etc. But honestly, it has its challenges but is easier than I thought. And very rewarding.