Your child bring gifts for their friends in elementary school? In preschool kids usually brought stuff for Halloween, Christmas, and Valentines Day. I have no idea what is common at our public elementary school, right now I do not even know what holidays they have parties for in Kindergarten.
Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies
Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
Re: What holidays if any does/will
I think this varies from school to school. You will want to check with your child's teacher to find out how this is handled at your particular school.
At my son's elementary school, there are class parties on Halloween and Valentine's Day. It is usually coordinated by the teacher or a volunteer parent. The school acknowledges kids' birthdays, but they do not allow kids to bring in treats for the whole class. There are two reasons for this: food allergy problems and the distraction from instructional time.
In addition to the whole-school parties for Halloween and Valentine's Day, my son has had some sort of special day very close to Christmas break both years, although it was not explicitly tied to Christmas. For instance, in K, they did a "gingerbread man" party on the last day before break. In first they had just written personal narratives, and they had an "author party" on the day before break started. I thought that was a really nice way to acknowledge that it's a celebratory time of year for many families, without being inappropriate in a really diverse school where about 30% of the kids are not Christian and do not celebrate Christmas.
You should get notes home about all those guidelines from your child's teacher. This year my DD is in second grade, and they are going through the class list taking turns bringing in a snack for everyone (so, once ever 21 days). Birthday treats are always welcome and there really are no guidelines, except maybe no peanut products in case of allergies. Her school has always done Halloween treats, and Valentine's cards, candy, and whatever the heck else you want to send in.
There aren't any healthy guidelines that you HAVE to follow, though of course it's recommended. But so far kids have brought in cookies, brownies, string cheese, and when it was our turn I made popcorn (not microwave) and made up snack bags for everyone.
Valentine Day cards only.
I would be pretty upset if a school expected gift exchanges for any reason.