kissing?

Amanda88

I picked DS up from preschool today, and when he went to leave his teacher gave him a huge hug and kiss on his forehead. It wasn't quick. It was kind of like when DS and I are goofing off and I grab him and kiss him and won't let him run away. I've never seen her do this before. It weirded me out. Is it common for teachers to kiss their students?

LoveEeyore

At my kids' school the kids' twos teacher was very kissy.  She was meant to be a twos teacher- they needed that nurturing soft side first coming.  The older teachers don't do this at all.  Not sure how I'd feel about it.

ldcoffel

I would take it as a compliment. She loves and is nurturing to your child.

Art Teacher

A teacher kissing a child is NOT appropriate. 

DTNZ4Ever

For the longest time DS would only kiss his teacher not even me. It was his teacher from his infant 2 class and toddler classroom. She loves him. As he has gotten older I've seen this less.

Amanda88

The more time I have had to mull this incident over, the more I am positive I am not okay with it. He has been in school for 6 days. I do not want my child thinking it is appropriate for an adult, much less an adult in an authority position, he barely knows to kiss on him. Does anyone have any advice on how to gently address this with his teacher if it continues?

 

I should also mention in these 6 days I have never seen her kiss any other child. 

LoveEeyore

I would tell her you noticed that she kissed him and you love that he is in a place that he is loved.  However, you are beginning to address at home safe interactions with adults- talk, touch, etc- and you feel right now that since he does love and trust her, that the lessonss may be confusing.  Can she please reinforce that by sticking to hugs?

funchicken

The teachers at our preschool give hugs but not kisses, and the kids sit on their laps sometimes if they need a little more comforting (esp. the 2s and 3s).  I wouldn't be comfortable with kissing.

neverblushed

Hugs = fine

Kissing, even on forehead = teacher is not using best judgment

I'm nearly 100% sure that her intentions were honorable, and that she is just a warm, caring teacher who is getting to know her students.  On the other hand, she's a 4s teacher, not a 2s teacher.  I would probably let it ride this time, but if it ever happens again, I would talk about it with her, using the "we're working on safe interactions at home" line that someone suggested above.

Amanda88

Thanks ladies!