Multiple Hostess gift question

Goldsgirl9

My girlfriend is coordinating my entire shower and asked my 3 sisters, 2 sister in laws, my mother in law and my mother if they'd like to help. I believe all are contributing in some way with my girlfriend taking on the brunt of the coordinating.

My question is, should I buy them all the same gift or should I get them each something unique in different price ranges? Do I just buy my girlfriend a great gift and get the rest thank you cards? I am really just not sure how to go about it. Any suggestions would be appreciated. 

1026pumpkin

Wow- 8 people would be a lot to get individual gifts for.  I would write each of them a really nice note and maybe include some cookies or something with it.  If it's clear that one person did a lot of the work (i.e. your friend that's coordinating), maybe get her a gift certificate or something.

I know that hostess gifts are the norm on the bump, but I've hosted many showers and have never received or expected one.  I would think that older generations (mom, MIL) or people without kids wouldn't even know that hostess gifts are a thing, so I think they'd really just appreciate a thoughtful thank you.

caymanianseminole

1026pumpkin:

Wow- 8 people would be a lot to get individual gifts for.  I would write each of them a really nice note and maybe include some cookies or something with it.  If it's clear that one person did a lot of the work (i.e. your friend that's coordinating), maybe get her a gift certificate or something.

I know that hostess gifts are the norm on the bump, but I've hosted many showers and have never received or expected one.  I would think that older generations (mom, MIL) or people without kids wouldn't even know that hostess gifts are a thing, so I think they'd really just appreciate a thoughtful thank you.

Agreed! Initially my BFF and my Aunt were cohosting my shower - now apparently a whole host of my friends and family have been volunteering left, right and centre - I'm leaving it up to my BFF to coordinate everything as I think she knows my tastes best, and I've asked her just to let me know who is assisting her so I can thank them accordingly.  Personally I've never received a thank you note or gift for hosting any of my friends showers and never felt any way about not receiving a formal thank you as I know they were appreciative of my efforts...but I plan to get a small gift for my BFF and my Aunt since they are the main organizers and I'll do some cupcakes and thank you cards for everyone else.

maiatene

I have about 5 people working on various aspects of my shower so I will gift all of them something, as well as the lady who is allowing me to use her house for the shower. No one is expecting anything but I was taught to give gifts to your host/hostess no matter what the occassion... to this day whenever I go to my BFF house I always bring something small (usually wine or something for the kids) and I've known here for 20+ years lol

They dont have to be huge gifts, just something that says "thank you". Each hostess/helper is getting a gift certificate and depending on their contribution anything from a bottle of wine to spa something but it will be something I know they will like that they wont necessarily get for themselves. The lady who owns the house I'm having the shower will get a box of gourmet tea bc she is an avid tea drinker so I know she will appreciate that.

Dont fret too much.. I'm sure they will appreciate whatever you decide to get them :-)

rhubarb123

1026pumpkin:

Wow- 8 people would be a lot to get individual gifts for.  I would write each of them a really nice note and maybe include some cookies or something with it.  If it's clear that one person did a lot of the work (i.e. your friend that's coordinating), maybe get her a gift certificate or something.

I know that hostess gifts are the norm on the bump, but I've hosted many showers and have never received or expected one.  I would think that older generations (mom, MIL) or people without kids wouldn't even know that hostess gifts are a thing, so I think they'd really just appreciate a thoughtful thank you.

Yep...I agree with this (although I have received hostess gifts when I've hosted - but not always and only when it's just be me or with one other person).  I do like the idea of attaching maybe a small bag of cookies or chocolate covered pretzels, etc. to the thank you card for your sisters, SIL, mother and anyone else other then the main hostess.

Goldsgirl9

Thanks ladies, this helps a lot and I like the idea of giving wine along with thank you cards etc.