In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be
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Re: A new level of suck
BFP #1 12.24.07 - DD born @ 39w1d on 08.26.08
BFP #2 08.04.11 - DD born still @ 37w3d on 03.25.12
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TTC #3 since May 2012
BFP #3 12.29.12 - CP @ 4w2d on 01.02.13
BFP #4 10.17.13 - CP @ 4w2d on 10.23.13
BFP #5 04.06.14 - MMC 05.07.14
No longer trying to conceive.
Seems like there's always a new level of suck, doesn't it? Just when you think you've come through the worst...bam, there's something else. I think life will be like this always; there will always be some reminders of our baby's should've beens & milestones. I think when my son would've been 18 or 21 I will still think about him and wonder.
Sounds like you have compassionate friends though, that is one small mercy. Do you think you will go to any of the parties? I don't think I could. I ditched out on my two friends' sons' 1st bdays this past year- I just couldn't handle a baby boy 1st bday party.
The only party my DH and I might go to (and it's not till January) is our friends who's little boy was born at 23w4d and spent 202 days in the NICU. They are very close friends of ours and have been amazing to us and we've done the best we can to be there for them as they still struggle to this day with their son who's got a feeding tube and is on oxygen and stuff. They're the people in our lives that get it the most. Their son is the only baby I've held and think I could ever hold besides my own. Otherwise we've been saying "thank you for thinking about us but we won't be able to make it." It's hard enough to be at my nieces and nephews birthday parties and they're 4,5,6 and 17.
I can't believe you're that far along already!
In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be
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It really does suck watching your friends children grow that are the age of your angel. I have talked about it on here before but obviously everyone doesn't read every single post. I have two friends that were due with boys when I was with Gavin. Not only was it a stab in the knife when they were still pregnant when Gavin died, the one invited me to her baby shower! I was like are you effing kidding me? Anyhow those two girls also were pregnant with boys when I was with my rainbow. The baby shower girl and I had our boys on the same day actually. It makes me so sad to know what a tight bond their sons will have being so close and my son will never have met his brother. Like you those two girls weren't the only ones pregnant with me I literally knew about ten other pregnant girls and my cousin was pregnant also. It really does suck.
Your post made me realize how even more my friends suck. Mine all invite me to their parties and get super pissed if I don't go. If I try to turn to my family for support on why I do no want to attend, they tell me I have to get over it some day and just go. Um no I will never "get over it" jacka$$es.
I am sorry you are feeling thi s pain right now. The first year I know is especially hard. Sending you lots of thoughts and prayers. (((HUGS)))
P.S. That grave comment; I made almost the same exact one in a craft store when getting things for Gavin's 1st birthday. I was just so distraught and I said "This effing sucks that I have to worry about if my child's gift is cemetary acceptable."
Grace should be one this month so I totally understand what you are feeling. Seeing babies her age is still very hard for me. I do not think I could go to any of their parties or would even try and people would just have to understand. One sent me over the edge last night at a church meal.
I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Corbin, though it gets easier over time, the milestones can still be very hard and the sadness can still come out of nowhere. I would not feel any pressure to "be strong" and go to any of those parties...I would not go.
Thinking of you.
Hugs,
Jenn
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.