Midlife Crisis Update

FyreFlyeRush

I forgot to add I was readmitted to UTSA in good standing. I start back to school in the Spring term. Hard to think of DD and I being in college at the same time. My lawyer and our family facilitator say it doesn't affect SDs odds of custody should he decide that's what he wants. In fact, I look good for going back to make a better life for DS, rather than stay in a dead end job.

gimmietimmies

Hang in there, I hope things get figured soon. Don't let the court procedures wear you down.

stever

Hooray! That's great news about being readmitted.

And I don't see how you going to schoool would have any bearing on custody anyway. I mean, my only experience with custody deals was through my parents' when I was 12 but, like you said, surely getting an education and securing your and DS's future can only be a good thing.

I thought SD wasn't super keen on being in the picture anyway. Or am I off base?

gimmietimmies

stever:

Hooray! That's great news about being readmitted.

And I don't see how you going to schoool would have any bearing on custody anyway. I mean, my only experience with custody deals was through my parents' when I was 12 but, like you said, surely getting an education and securing your and DS's future can only be a good thing.

I thought SD wasn't super keen on being in the picture anyway. Or am I off base?

My take is it's about the money and manipulation, not actually about lo. A giant mindfvck. He's mild version of my xbil. It's a game, and he wants to win, did I get that right FFR?

FyreFlyeRush

gimmietimmies:

stever:

Hooray! That's great news about being readmitted.

And I don't see how you going to schoool would have any bearing on custody anyway. I mean, my only experience with custody deals was through my parents' when I was 12 but, like you said, surely getting an education and securing your and DS's future can only be a good thing.

I thought SD wasn't super keen on being in the picture anyway. Or am I off base?

My take is it's about the money and manipulation, not actually about lo. A giant mindfvck. He's mild version of my xbil. It's a game, and he wants to win, did I get that right FFR?

I am actually forbidden from saying anything negative about him. how 'bout them apples?

In looking for support groups about emotional and mental abuse, I came across some information regarding Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissitic Injury. It's very interesting reading. The person I could apply this to isn't super extreme, but definitely seems to fit. They became completely unraveled when I left, and everything is about them... I do X. MY time. MY money. I don't get X. I am the VICTIM here...stuff like that. Except, when they need to place blame or justify actions, then it's... YOU make me this way. If YOU would give me X, I wouldn't have to Y. It's YOUR fault I did X. I have to be this way, because YOU insert grievance here. I refuse to cooperate because YOU have this issue, not me.

Then the emotional abuse...I was just kidding. You're too sensitive. I never said that. You pushed me to far, I had to X. At one point the person I was researching for though SHE were the crazy one. She had to go back through old text messages and make sure.

ELF4321

Sounds like you have a great plan.

stever

FyreFlyeRush:

gimmietimmies:

stever:

Hooray! That's great news about being readmitted.

And I don't see how you going to schoool would have any bearing on custody anyway. I mean, my only experience with custody deals was through my parents' when I was 12 but, like you said, surely getting an education and securing your and DS's future can only be a good thing.

I thought SD wasn't super keen on being in the picture anyway. Or am I off base?

My take is it's about the money and manipulation, not actually about lo. A giant mindfvck. He's mild version of my xbil. It's a game, and he wants to win, did I get that right FFR?

I am actually forbidden from saying anything negative about him. how 'bout them apples? In looking for support groups about emotional and mental abuse, I came across some information regarding Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissitic Injury. It's very interesting reading. The person I could apply this to isn't super extreme, but definitely seems to fit. They became completely unraveled when I left, and everything is about them... I do X. MY time. MY money. I don't get X. I am the VICTIM here...stuff like that. Except, when they need to place blame or justify actions, then it's... YOU make me this way. If YOU would give me X, I wouldn't have to Y. It's YOUR fault I did X. I have to be this way, because YOU insert grievance here. I refuse to cooperate because YOU have this issue, not me. Then the emotional abuse...I was just kidding. You're too sensitive. I never said that. You pushed me to far, I had to X. At one point the person I was researching for though SHE were the crazy one. She had to go back through old text messages and make sure.

That sounds horrific. I'm sorry

benniferbaby

You gotta love the whole anti-defamatory contract clauses. They are almost impossible to enforce and pretty irrational as a result. But kudos to you for abiding by the nonsense.

Stever is right, that does sound horrific. I hope Henry grows up to be keen enough to see above the drama.

And I think it's great that you and DD will be in college together! Sounds like an 80s movie (and who among this group doesn't love a good 80s movie flashback?). Hugs to ya!