***PAL Check-In***

Mrs Nice

Hello Ladies.Welcome to Thursday PAL Check-in! I hope everyone is having a good week. If anyone has any suggestions for questions, please don't be shy!Where are you in your PAL journey? What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)? Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? GTKY: How did you meet your SO?

Mrs Nice

Where are you in your PAL journey?

 

It has now been a year and a half since I lost Ian. I can't believe that so much time has gone by when I had thought that the world had ended. Zachary is almost 7 months old. He will be on the move soon!  

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

 

Still haven't moved Zachary to his own room yet. He has been sick and DH has been working the midnight shift so I have been getting away with having him with me. However, it has been very difficult with DH working nights. I feel like I am a single parent and I am exhausted. 

 

QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)?

 

When DH is home he will watch Zachary for me if I need a shower ect. but as soon as I am done he hands him back. He does great when he does have him. They play and laugh but right now they don't spend very much time together. I hope as DS gets older and less dependent on me that they will be able to bond better.

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

 

 I love being a mom but sometimes I feel trapped. I can't just do whatever I want when I want like DH can. I have to make sure that Zachary is okay to be left with someone first, and even then most of the time it can only be for one or two hours max. (I EBF) I feel like it is important for me to have my "me" time but I am not getting it. Sometimes I will tell my DH that I "need" to go have a bath just so I can relax baby free for a few minutes. 

I hope I don't sound ungrateful for my rainbow baby. I am the happiest I have been in a long time and I love Zachary more then anything else in the world. I wouldn't trade being his mom for anything, but I feel like I could be a better mom for him if I could be more relaxed.

 

GTKY: How did you meet your SO? I met my DH in high school. He was (and is still) my older brothers best friend. When we started dating I was 15 and he was 18. My brother was against it at first, but then he realized that he didn't have a say in the matter and told us that if someone had to date his sister then he was glad it was someone he knew was a great guy. Then he told him that if he ever hurt me then he would have to hurt him even tho they were friends. My parents said that they assumed it would happen sooner or later anyway, and were happy they knew DH already so they didn't have to worry (as much) about me. 

julesverne

Where are you in your PAL journey? DD will be 3 next month, and I am due on 4/9/13

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? Same as it has been for past few weeks..coping with the fact I will have had 3 kids, but only 2 to hold.

 

QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)? DH is awesome with DD. He is real good at playing with her, and I love watch those 2 snuggle. It's priceless

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Preschool and potty training!! We finally got DD "accepted" to a preschool but they require her to be potty trained. She does great if she is naked, but still has a way to go wearing underwear..and she starts school in a month..we've got out work cut out of us

 

GTKY: How did you meet your SO? I hate to admit it, but we met on match.com. On a whim, and out of boredom, I setup a profile on the site not thinking I would actually meet someone. I was only 20 (a few months shy of turning 21), not really in the market for an actual relationship..but DH was the only guy to reply to my profile (and to this day I can't figure out why DH would have used a dating website...he is not that type at all!)..and 10.5 years later, the rest they say is history

pottermommy

Where are you in your PAL journey?

 

Gabe is 7.5 months old.  We are walking along well I am walking, he is refusing to even crawl so he is being carried....

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

 

Monday was Kam's 4 year angelversary, today was 4 years from her funeral. 

 

QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)?

 

He loves G.  I didn't know he would be this clingy with him, though on Monday he wanted nothing to do with either Gabe or Katelyn.  He was quiet and just was withdrawn but wouldn't talk to me about it.

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

 

I just let G take a bath without me in there with him!! And he was just on his bottom, no bath seat, he LOVED it!!!

 

GTKY: How did you meet your SO?

 

My BFF and his BFF were engaged.  They introduced us.

 

 

Pottytraining and panty advice~~  We had that issue with Katelyn.  What I did was take her to walmart and let her pick out every pair of panties that she wanted...We spent 35.00 in panties.  When I got home I let her pick out whatever pair she wanted to wear (sparkle dora's).  She instantly pee'ed on them.  When she did I had her take them off and throw them in the trash.  I told her that peeing in panties was gross and she couldn't wear them again because they were yucky and gross.  And yes I really threw them away.  She cried, she tried to take them back out and I put them back in and put her in a "squishy diaper"  the nest day I let her pick out her next fav pair of panties, she has never pee'ed in panties again : )

 

julesverne

pottermommy:

Where are you in your PAL journey?

 

Gabe is 7.5 months old.  We are walking along well I am walking, he is refusing to even crawl so he is being carried....

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently?

 

Monday was Kam's 4 year angelversary, today was 4 years from her funeral. 

 

QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)?

 

He loves G.  I didn't know he would be this clingy with him, though on Monday he wanted nothing to do with either Gabe or Katelyn.  He was quiet and just was withdrawn but wouldn't talk to me about it.

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?

 

I just let G take a bath without me in there with him!! And he was just on his bottom, no bath seat, he LOVED it!!!

 

GTKY: How did you meet your SO?

 

My BFF and his BFF were engaged.  They introduced us.

 

 

Pottytraining and panty advice~~  We had that issue with Katelyn.  What I did was take her to walmart and let her pick out every pair of panties that she wanted...We spent 35.00 in panties.  When I got home I let her pick out whatever pair she wanted to wear (sparkle dora's).  She instantly pee'ed on them.  When she did I had her take them off and throw them in the trash.  I told her that peeing in panties was gross and she couldn't wear them again because they were yucky and gross.  And yes I really threw them away.  She cried, she tried to take them back out and I put them back in and put her in a "squishy diaper"  the nest day I let her pick out her next fav pair of panties, she has never pee'ed in panties again : )

 

 

Thank you for the potty training advice (you are always so supportive and helpful!). I have heard from a lot of people to use this method-let them pick out their own underwear, etc. When we first went to buy underwear, I asked her what kind she wanted, and of course she wanted Sesame Street...and for the life of me, I cannot find them! But I guess I will just have to get persistent in my search!

samakasrc

Where are you in your PAL journey?  We are just over 9 months out from the loss of our son.  Now that we got great u/s results we are able to relax a bit.  Its been a really rocky and rough road to get to this point though.  I can't believe how relieved I feel that I can go into our a/s knowing babies have all their vital organs and all of them look great.

 

What are some PAL challenges you have faced recently? We had our u/s this week to determine if these babies have kidneys or if either of them had the same condition our son had.  The last few weeks leading up to this pregnancy threw me into a depression I've never experienced before, I was definitely not in my right mind and I have no idea how I made it threw.

 

QOTW: How well does your SO bond with your LO(s)? Before - he didn't, at all.  Now that we know they are both healthy and growing great (and that they are 2 boys) he is bonding dramatically!  He touches my belly all the time now, kisses it good night and says "good night you 3".  I love it.

 

Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Just hoping to carry these babies well beyond 36 weeks.  I want them to be in there growing as long as they possibly can!

 

GTKY: How did you meet your SO? Through a mutual friend.  I worked with his best friend and she introduced us.