DS loss at 6 days old

katyms7

Hello,

 

A friend suggested that I come to this board for support. It took me a few weeks to start posting and introduce myself. I think I was in shock for the first 2 weeks and now i am starting to realize what has happened.

 

My husband and I were TTC for a year and were over the moon when I was pregnant. I got my BFP on Christmas Eve and my due date was 8/29/12. I was induced early at 38 weeks due to BP issues . I delivered our son Frank on 8/19/12 after 3.5 days of labor. It was noticed almost immediately that there was a problem with Frank. He had a buildup of mucus that he was not able to get rid of. It was found that he had a trachael esophageal fistula. Frank had a 8 hour surgery to have the fistula placed on 8/23 and came through the surgery wonderfully. Frank did pass on 8/25 due to complications. We had a private funeral service for him on 8/28.

 

I have never been more devastated in my life. I think coming to this board will give me the support and strength that I need to get by. We now have an angel watching over us but I can't help to be sad, angry, shocked, and just besides myself. I think all of the ladies on this board are the support system that I need.

 

 Thank you ladies!

Katy

jess123456

Oh Katy I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I am also new to this board (my baby girl Grace Elizabeth grew her angel wings on September 5) and so far this board has brought so much comfort just to know that I am not alone. Please know that we are here for you. 

 

 

pottermommy

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Oh my sweet Katy, I am so so sorry for the loss of your son Frank. My DD was 19 months old when she passed away, the devestation is unending and you are right support is necessary.  And we are glad to be there for you. THough I hate to welcome anyone to this board, welcome and anything at all that you need, just ask.

This group of women is wonderful and we will take you into our arms and love you and support you in everything that you need. 

Once again, I am sorry for you loss.

Heatherhah

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Katy- I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet son Frank. We are all here for you Always. I hate to have to welcome you here so all I will say is if you need us we are all here. Hugs!! 

jbranden12

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Katy, I am so sorry for the loss of your Frank. What a journey you and your husband have been on. I hope you can find support and strength here among these amazing women and mothers.

Bayberry12

Katy,

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet little Frank.  I am very sad to welcome you here, and I wish you didn't have to be here, but I am glad you found us.  Please know that we understand everything you are feeling.  Nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child and it changes you forever. We are here for you. 

OSUWifey09

Katy -- I am so sorry for your loss. I'm fairly new to the board [my son was born sleeping on August 19], but I have found so much strength here already. I hope you find the same. I'm sorry to welcome you here, but everyone is here for you. *hugs*

cherrycobbler

Katy,  I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet little Frank.  I took me a few months of "lurking" to finally introduce myself after our loss.  The women here are all amazing and supportive.  I hope that you are able to find some comfort here among "friends".

 Love and ((hugs)) to you and your family. 

dandywarhol

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little Frank. Please know that we are here for you whenever and however you need us.  I hope we can help you find some moments of peace and calm.

Williamandshawnna

Katy,

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son Frank. You have found a wonderful group of women to support you. They have helped me so much over the last few months. I wish you and your family peace and comfort.

Big HUGS

~Shawnna

Mrs Nice

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I am so sorry for your loss of yor sweet son, Frank. I hope you can find some comfort and support with the amazing woman on this board. 

Big hugs to you! 

ally2011

Hi Katy, I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet son Frank.  There are just no words for what it feels like to lose a child.  The first weeks and months are a fog.  Then the fog starts to lift and you may find yourself feeling worse than you remember feeling earlier.  That is normal.  Over time the pain will fade, but you will never be the same person, and you will probably never go a day in your life that you won't think of your baby.  I know I don't, and most women here would agree.  

I would encourage you to be kind to yourself, and patient.  It is ok if you don't feel like doing anything for awhile.  I was out of work for 6 weeks and going back was still very hard.  Eventually you will enjoy things again, but again, it takes time.  I wish someone had told me that the darkness would not last forever and ever, because feeling like it would was awful.  

There are many good books (see the post below or above this for several recommendations).  You can also call your hospital as there should be a person who deals with loss moms that can give you some resources.  You can also check with local pastors, and counseling agencies to find someone who specializes in child loss.  Your local Hospice office may be helpful as well, ours has resources for everything and offers free grief counseling to anyone in the community with a loss within the first year, regardless of whether they were a patient of Hospice.   

I also found this from a book I have: https://www.nancyguthrie.com/retreats/

Again, we are all here for you as much as you need.

Hugs,

Jenn 

Carolee

I'm so sad you're joining us, but welcome.  I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious son, Frank.  I hope you'll find this board to be a source of comfort and support.