WDYT?

Mrs.adambabycakes

My family and I were out to dinner the other night at a semi busy restaurant. Our server was really nice and outgoing, especially toward my almost two year old daughter. At one point toward the end of the meal my daughter was getting restless so I took her out of her high chair. She was going around the table visiting with the fam, not being fussy or anything. After about two or three minutes the server came back and started talking to my DD. Server then asked if DD wanted to walk with her, so she took DDs hand and started to walk toward the front of the restaraunt. My H and I gave each other this look, so I went to go get her after they walked about 20 feet. Even though I could still see her it made me super uncomfortable. She didn't ask to take her, and I felt bad letting it happen. She was nice and all, but you are a stranger taking someone's kid, it's weird. How would you feel and what would you do or say? Sorry tl;dr. On phone.
Edit: spelling

GrayGhost13

I'm with you. Well-meaning but weird.

CoffeeBeen

I would not be comfortable with that either.  I probably would say something like, "That's a great idea - let's take a walk!" and go with them.  I wouldn't want to be rude because I'm sure she didn't mean any harm.  But I wouldn't let them go by themselves because the situation could easily go south.

evaazalea

As a server I still find it odd, likely bc I am also a parent though, I always make sure to check with parents for anything. I had a coworker come to my table and ask to hold their baby, I found that even stranger, can't say I have ever gone up to strangers and asked to hold their child. 

ASmallWonder

A little odd but well intentioned.  Some people just don't realize how awkward it is for a parent to have someone else with their kid like that.  Her asking your daughter if she wanted to go for a walk was likely her way of putting the request out there to all of you.

hmp1

I would just assume she doesn't have kids and doesn't realize parents would not appreciate that. I would have just followed after her but let LO hang out with the server.

Libby1978

It's a little weird, but she was probably just being nice.  It actually sounds like something my younger sister would do.  She's a server & she goes on and on about cute kids that come in.  She works at an upscale place, so she doesn't get a lot of young customers. 

Mrs.adambabycakes

hmpmrj:

I would just assume she doesn't have kids and doesn't realize parents would not appreciate that. I would have just followed after her but let LO hang out with the server.

This is what I did. After I met up with them we said hi to the other servers and then walked back to the table. I guess what got me was DD being so willing to follow her. When do kids start to comprehend stranger danger?

ShellShockedMama

Well, perhaps she figured by asking your daughter if she wanted to walk around(I assume you were right there) she figured if you had a problem with it, you would have said "thanks, but no" or something and therefore felt comfortable walking with your kid. 

I can see why people feel weird about it, but I wouldn't say anything. I'd just make sure I don't allow it next time if it made me feel weird. She did stay within eye sight and she was just trying to help so, I don't really see the benefit in saying anything. 

I'd take it as a learning lesson and leave it at that.  

Mrs.adambabycakes

ShellShockedMama:

Well, perhaps she figured by asking your daughter if she wanted to walk aroundI assume you were right there she figured if you had a problem with it, you would have said "thanks, but no" or something and therefore felt comfortable walking with your kid.nbsp;I can see why people feel weird about it, but I wouldn't say anything. I'd just make sure I don't allow it next time if it made me feel weird. She did stay within eye sight and she was just trying to help so, I don't really see the benefit in saying anything.nbsp;I'd take it as a learning lesson and leave it at that. nbsp;

She wouldn't have stayed within eyesight had I not caught up with them. She kind of caught me off guard because it happened so fast, but I think next time if this happens I will politely say something.
ETA: She wasn't fussy when she was out of the high hair, so there wasn't anything to help with.