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jkfranklin

I've been feeling down lately and I finally figured out why. This weekend I got an invitation in the mail for my nephew's birthday party on the 16th. My EDD for my loss was 9/15. I should be planning a 1st birthday party right now.

It sucks because I know if I didn't lose that LO, I wouldn't have Lyla and I can't imagine not having her, but it still makes me sad.

Sorry to be a downer. I needed to get that off ny chest. Thanks for listening.

Kdrake8

Definitely thinking of you and sending out positive vibes.  Regardless of how much you love Lyla, it still has to be tough.  Sending you an internet hug

TrudyCampbell

(((big hugs)))

thadsrad

You aren't alone.  When the EDD for my loss came in Dec. 2010, I was so sad! I was with my SIL who was hugely pregnant and it just HURT.  I had bought an outfit months after the loss and decided to give the outfit to my SIL on the EDD for her little one.  I included a card explaining the outfit and it made a sad situation feel, I don't know, more hopeful?  

So, not alone. And don't think you don't deserve to be sad.   

adrianacastro08

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you start feeling better soon

AshleyDG83

Big hugs to you!

ImThisBabysMom

I'm sorry youre down. I send you lots of love. I like to think that I got my baby back. Even though I m/c'd, I like to think Madelyn was always going to be my baby. So that would mean you didn't really lose a baby, but you got Lyla back. Maybe its a silly way to think, but its how I feel. I hope you get through this time ok.

MsCat19

I'm so sorry.  (((hugs)))

Mamasaurus

I don't know what my EDD would have been, so it never occurred to me how hard this must be. I hope it gets easier for you in the coming years.

 

Browneyedhunni85

You have a right to be sad about that date. We don't want you to be sad though. Cheer up!

huahualove

I'm sorry, I would be feeling sad too. I know you must wish that you could have all three if that was somehow possible. Hugs

babybug11

Sorry for your loss... ((HUGS))

jkfranklin

ImThisBabysMom:

I'm sorry youre down. I send you lots of love. I like to think that I got my baby back. Even though I m/c'd, I like to think Madelyn was always going to be my baby. So that would mean you didn't really lose a baby, but you got Lyla back. Maybe its a silly way to think, but its how I feel. I hope you get through this time ok.

Aww, now I'm crying. That is so sweet. I love this way of thinking.

Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I love you all so much!

CPhillz

jkfranklin:

ImThisBabysMom:

I'm sorry youre down. I send you lots of love. I like to think that I got my baby back. Even though I m/c'd, I like to think Madelyn was always going to be my baby. So that would mean you didn't really lose a baby, but you got Lyla back. Maybe its a silly way to think, but its how I feel. I hope you get through this time ok.

Aww, now I'm crying. That is so sweet. I love this way of thinking. Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. I love you all so much!

Aw! I also love this. My previous EDD was close to Christmas (the 19th) so I always feel a little down around then. But Camden is the light of my life, so I always felt, idk, guilty for feeling sad - like I didn't appreciate or love Camden enough, KWIM? I love ITBM's way of thinking, though! Even though my previous baby was a girl, I guess she was just my 'Cammy'! :-) 

ETA: I'm sorry, I'm a douche. I really am sorry you are feeling down - just wanted to let you know you aren't alone! Those dates are hard to come by. ((((((((hugs!)))))))) 

MikeHoncho

I'm so sorry! Creepy internet hugs. Lots of em

gisa886

Hugs!

creamsiclechica

Imthisbabysmom, that is such a beautiful way to think of it. I'm happy you can find some positivity in a tragedy and spread that happiness to others.
Jkfrank, lots of hugs and love your way. Hug Lyla and Dylan extra hard that day and hopefully that will help.
Everybody in this thread who suffered a loss, my deepest sympathies. You all harbor a strength most don't have, myself included.

KatFCo

I'm so sorry. I can't say I know how you feel, but I will definitely be thinking of you this week.

rxbeth

Even though you have Lyla (and Dylan) it seems normal to be sad.  I'm so sorry and hope you get through the anniversary relatively unscathed.

JFH2010

I'm so sorry. It must be so hard, but it doesn't mean you appreciate Lyla any less. Your sadness over your traumatic event is separate from your love for her. Lots more creepy Internet hugs to you.

Ximena M

I'm sorry, sending you hugs!

Harper'smom

Hugs. I'm sorry for your loss and sorry that your heart is getting tugged in different directions. I'm so glad you have your sweet lo's for comfort.

katieh1017

Thinking of you...

ChelseyB5186

:sigh: I am so sorry Jk...mine is coming up in October.  I wish I could give you big hugs right now.  ILY.  Lyla is a beautiful little rainbow baby for you

in my life

I'm so sorry.

Christina_Diane

More Internet hugs. I'm sorry for your loss.

tiannalee

Just some hugs and love from me to you.

dojo1

It's ok to feel sad for your loss and greatful for you lo all at the same time. Whatever you're feeling is valid.  I hope you're feeling more yourself again soon.