Regret - clicky poll

Ooglybear

So many responses in the "advice for friend" post below implied (or outright stated) that they wish they didn't marry a man with kids. I'm just wondering how many people really feel that way.

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Edit: I changed the post title b/c it conflicted with the poll question. Didn't want to cause confusion. 

Littlejen22

I think the question is hard to answer because me saying I would not do it all over again implies regret about being with DH and having kids with him. I do not wish to undo any of it but honestly knowing what I know and what we went through I would never recommend it to anyone and would never have done it knowingly.

Ilumine

Littlejen22:

I think the question is hard to answer because me saying I would not do it all over again implies regret about being with DH and having kids with him. I do not wish to undo any of it but honestly knowing what I know and what we went through I would never recommend it to anyone and would never have done it knowingly.

What Jen said. 

I would never regret having my child.  But I will never recommend doing it to anyone else.  

I did not want to marry someone with kids becuase of my Aunt and her second exhusband.  He had an awful time whit my cousins (love EM, but they were brats). He died last week and to the end of his funeral, two out of the tree were *** brats and I have lost almost all of my respect for one.  

He was a spectacular StepParent even after the divorce.  And to the end, even after they received money, they went out hating on him....

Stepparenting is a thankless job that no one should have to go through. 

Nineoceans

Yes. I feel I'm exactly where I'm supposed to be. Dh would not be who he is today and our family wouldn't be what we are without the baggage. I wouldn't necessarily relive some parts of it but I would tell a younger me to dig deep for some courage and hang on for the ride

SusanH.

I voted yes but to clarify...I would do it with my DH again. 

If you meant just in general, it would be on a case by case basis.  My DH and his ex had a cordial relationship and didnt use their child as a pawn.   We will often switch weekends if the other had plans, all of us go to school/sport events. I am not saying we are "friends' but we all get along and it is good.

I am not so sure I would get into a relationship with someone who had kids and didnt have a good relationship with their ex.

HisChamaoleGirl

No I do not regret pursuing the relationship with my DH and becoming a blended family. Honestly, the BS we have been through bc of BM and being a blended family has brought us closer together and because of those struggles we are where we are today. I feel if we went back in time and changed anything we may not be as successful as a couple today without those issues. Of course I would like to chnage some things about this situation, but I realize the things I want to change are out of our control (BM behavior for example).

riabiron

I still would have chosen dh no doubt BUT i wish I had a better idea of what I was getting into. it would have saved me alot of heartache. I thought i knew but in reality i doubt any of use truly understand until we get there.