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Never judge an apparent fertile by their cover
A girl I know (let's call her "A") from way back in elementary school who I am FB friends with is pregnant with twins & has a 2 year old. Since her son was born like a year after she got married I just assumed she was a fertile, especially now that she's due with twins around T-day. She's always been very supportive in that she often comments or "thumbs up" my infertile musings on FB so I thought it odd.
Well, maybe she's perfectly fertile, but her husband apparently isn't. My mom ran into her mom @ the grocery store over the weekend & got to talking about being a grandma since my sister recently had a baby. My mom mentions our struggles & her mom tells my mom that A's husband (who I've only briefly met on a couple occasions) testicular cancer when he was 17. Knowing these, they did a SA & it wasn't good so he did TESE & IVF instead of going on a honeymoon; it didn't work but their son is the result of an FET from their frozens that cycle. The twins she is currently carrying are from FET #2 after another failed IVF.
Never judge an apparent fertile by their cover I guess. Granted her journey to motherhood was a lot shorter than all of ours but I kind of feel bad for assuming she was fertile. Weird, huh?
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Re: Never judge an apparent fertile by their cover
Your right, but it is hard when you see people getting pregnant over and over. I wouldnt feel bad, I think it is all part of IF totally sucking and the head space it puts you in. There are some days I just feel like I could just scream and cry and have a 2 yo temper tantrum about how unfair it is.
Hugs girl!!
3 failed IVF with OE and 2 failed frozen DE cycles
Last fresh hail mary DE cycle starting Feb 2013
PAIF/SAIF always welcome
TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
DE IVF #3 1/14 ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d
DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!
K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days
SAIF/PAIF Welcome
http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com
Not flameworthy but an intersting view. I kind of agree and kind of don't - there I am on the fence.......
Multiple ectopics, 2 failed IVF's
IVF #1: Did not get to ET, embies all failed PGD (major chromosomal defects)
IVF #2: We have 2 chromosomally perfect embies as a result of PGD (Boy/Girl) 1 failed the thaw (Girl) Transferred 1, yet ended as a c/p
Thought it was the end of our TTC Journey 6/20/2012
SHOCK BFP 9/28/2012: IT'S A BOY! and everything is normal !!!!!!
Little A born 38w 2d on 05/23/13 and is a true miracle for this IF Vet!
I don't think it's flammable. I think you're just being honest with your feelings. Before moving on to IVF, I rolled my eyes @ people who said they were infertile yet only had to do a few IUIs & got pregnant. Now that I've failed IVF twice, I feel much the same about people who succeed with IVF #1. We all know infertility isn't the pain olympics but we're also human & have feelings that are real based on our own personal experiences.