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VeniVidiScripsi
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When did you decide you wanted to try to have another?
VeniVidiScripsi
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Hi Ladies,
I've just had my first, Bella will be 4 weeks tomorrow. And DH is already talking about getting ready to have number 2! Part of his reasoning is because he's 35 years old and he's worried about being too old when the kids get older. It doesn't bother me, we already discussed having more children before I got pregnant, two or three to be exact. I just didn't think we'd be having them so close together. Nothing is set in stone but now I find myself thinking about it all the time.
Anyway my question is when did you decide you wanted to start trying for another? And how do you like having them so close in age? TIA
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Re: When did you decide you wanted to try to have another?
We knew we wanted 2 close together before our 1st was even born. After she was born, we were still certain we wanted them close. We started trying when she was 4.5 months old because we wanted them 18 months apart. Well, we ended up getting pregnant right away and then DS came 5 weeks early, so they are now 13.5 months apart.
I love it. It's hard, extremely hard at times, but just so worth it. I wouldn't have changed the gap if I could have. We wanted the infant years over with as quickly as possible.
We had TTTC with #1, and I am getting older, so we knew we wanted to have them close together. When DS was 6 months old, I weaned him from BFing so we could go back to the RE for #2. I never made it to that appt, because I got pg right away with DD - 15 months was a little closer than we had wanted but, it worked out really well!
With #3, we decided to start trying when DD (#2) was 1 year old (which if it had happened then, would have given us 3u3). It took almost a year to get pg again, so now DS will be almost 4 and DD will be 2.5 when he/she arrives. I am actually more nervous about the bigger age gap than I was about the 15 months between #1 and #2!
I knew when my oldest was four months old that I wanted another child soon. We got pg when L was 5 1/2 months, so they are 14 months apart. I love it! Overall, we had a really smooth transition to being a family of four. London wasn't old enough to experience jealousy, and she was at the stage where she was starting to value her independence when Chloe was born, so she didn't mind playing by herself while I fed the baby. She still took long naps, so I hand time to bond with Chloe or nap if I wanted to.
And, after my third pregnancy, I can tell you that, for me, it was MUCH easier to be pg with a non-walking baby than it was with kids who I had to chase after. Everyone assumes it's hard to be pg and have to carry a baby around, but it really wasn't that bad since I was used to carrying her around already.
My third DD is 18 months younger than #2, and that age gap is nice too. I prefer the 14 month old age gap though, but I just wasn't ready to get pg that soon after DD2.
Thanks so much for your responses! I really appreciate it!
My brother and I are 15 months apart and my mum said it was great, the same thing that was mentioned, I was too young to be jealous. My sister is 19 months younger than my brother. I know it worked for my mum but I didn't want her experience to be the only thing I was basing my decision on. I'm glad to hear the experiences of others.
We were married September 30th last year and started trying right away. My lmp was November 12th so it didn't take long, I just wanted to be sure before we start trying again in case it happens again so quickly. lol I'm just wondering if I should go on bc when I see my dr for my 6 week checkup or "just roll the dice" as DH wants to do.
Either way, thank for your help and I hope to be joining your board in the future!
We had planned on kids close in age and I didn't go on anything after LO#1. We used condoms. When DS was 4 months old, we ran out and decided pull and pray was adequate birth control. 2 weeks later I got my bfp. lol.
We were planning 18+ months apart, but I have to say I was glad they ended up being 12.5 months apart. It was easier because my son was too young to get it and I didn't have to chase a toddler around while huge and pregnant--while he was walking, he wasn't that great at it yet.
GL with whatever you decide! The great thing is you really can't make a wrong choice--I would say about 95% of people who answer these questions regardless of the age split between their kids end up loving it and the ones who wish their kids were closer/further apart still love having 2 kids.
We EBF LO#1 and I didn't want to have to wean him for the purposes of TTC again. I liked that he has gradually cut down his feeding and that I O'd and got my BFP while breastfeeding, still. I do not plan to tandem nurse and anticipate that we will fully wean sometime in this first tri.
We also didn't want to take on more risk [of later-in-life pregnancies] if it could be avoided.
After our first I said I was done. I had a very bad delivery and had numerous hospital stays durning my recovery. We decided after almost 2 years that we'd try again.
After our second, and a much easier recovery, we decided to try for the third when DD2 was almost 10 months old.
Well dang, now I can't stop thinking about having another! I have so much time to think about it while I am breastfeeding. And Bella is great and I can't wait for her to have a sibling. I'm thinking of waiting a little bit so she will be at least a year when her sibling will be born. But I'm reading more and more on here that condoms didn't work and people got pregnant when they weren't trying. I guess what's meant to be, will be.
I really can't thank you all enough for responding to my questions!
We were using condoms and trying to chart my cycle while BFing as birth control when I got my surprise BFP. So yeah, what's meant to be will definitely be
DD was 9mo and really getting mobile and it has been flat out exhausting so I agree with PP's who've said earlier might be better than later. Though I'd honestly never do that on purpose to myself. I'm hoping for a little more time (or maybe a lot more time...) between #2 and #3! GL deciding...or not deciding!