DH is such a jerk!

nanabanana06

So, he violently jumps out of bed at 6:30 in the morning to go to the bathroom. He wakes me pregly butt up in the process. He then tries to get sex out of me when he comes back. I am tired, mad, and have terrible heartburn. I want none of this.

So after refusing his advances I get up. I decide that I should do some dishes since we are out of bowls and coffee cups. Well I am nearly done and the piping under the sink is leaking badly. I now have a lake in the kitchen. Which means the stupid pipe has a clog, again.

So I go wake up DH to come help me clean up the swamp that is our kitchen. Instead he ignores my pleas for 20 minutes. Then after finally getting him up instead of helping he lectures me on the importance of keeping up on the dishes. Which is funny cuz he won't even clean off a plate, let alone wash a dish. Anyways after stopping the lecture, instead of waking up 20 minutes early and helping he gets our housemate up to help me instead, then goes back to sleep!! I am so mad at him, and I can't even have coffee now this morning.

Ok, got that off my chest.

Hesterlicious

Ahh what a jerk!  I hope he doesn't get coffee either. Does he realize he won't get sex  this way?  I would have dumped water on him.

DH drank the last coffee on me the other night because I woke him up early with back pain. He could have free coffee at work, he just did it to be a jerk.

pookie2005

This will probably get me flamed but whenever I read a post like this, I thank my lucky stars I have such an awesome husband who is my equal and not my boss. Doesn't do horrible things and doesn't lecture me. Helps around the house that he also lives in and dirties.

To the OP...if I was you, I'd take all those dirty dishes and wet rags you used to clean up that flood and pile them directly onto his sleeping lazy ass. Then I would be having a serious talk with him about the SHARING of housework. One who won't wash any dishes does not have the right to lecture. Call me a suffragette but there would be a stoppage of all cooking and cleaning and sex until he manned up and got off his high horse.

TheBuddha

pookie2005:

This will probably get me flamed but whenever I read a post like this, I thank my lucky stars I have such an awesome husband who is my equal and not my boss. Doesn't do horrible things and doesn't lecture me. Helps around the house that he also lives in and dirties.To the OP...if I was you, I'd take all those dirty dishes and wet rags you used to clean up that flood and pile them directly onto his sleeping lazy ass. Then I would be having a serious talk with him about the SHARING of housework. One who won't wash any dishes does not have the right to lecture. Call me a suffragette but there would be a stoppage of all cooking and cleaning and sex until he manned up and got off his high horse.

Eh, I think my husband is pretty awesome but he still does stuff that pisses me off.

jaecat521

anna karenina:

pookie2005:

This will probably get me flamed but whenever I read a post like this, I thank my lucky stars I have such an awesome husband who is my equal and not my boss. Doesn't do horrible things and doesn't lecture me. Helps around the house that he also lives in and dirties.

To the OP...if I was you, I'd take all those dirty dishes and wet rags you used to clean up that flood and pile them directly onto his sleeping lazy ass. Then I would be having a serious talk with him about the SHARING of housework. One who won't wash any dishes does not have the right to lecture. Call me a suffragette but there would be a stoppage of all cooking and cleaning and sex until he manned up and got off his high horse.

I don't think suffragette means what you think it means, lol. And your advice to the OP sucks as much as you do. Assault on her husband with dirty rags is not the answer.  

I don't think she was serious about the rag piling; that being said, if my DH bugged me for sex when I felt terrible, then wouldn't get his butt up and help me with the kitchen while preceding to lecture me about the state of the dishes when he refuses to clean any, yeah, he would get no sex and probably no words out of me for a while. 

I'm very much of the mindset that if you have a problem with the way I do something, you can do it yourself. And if you don't want to do it, then you can shut up about the way I do it. 

quidditchcapn1120

This is not acceptable behavior for a grown man. I am sorry you have to deal with that.  I hope he understands that he is acting 100% childish.

Wufroggy79

That all blows on at least 10 different levels.

Snapdragon750

Bet if you hadn't refused his advances he'd have helped you with the dishes!  

quidditchcapn1120

Snapdragon750:

Bet if you hadn't refused his advances he'd have helped you with the dishes!  

Please tell me that smiley at the end indicates sarcasm. 

pookie2005

anna karenina:

pookie2005:

This will probably get me flamed but whenever I read a post like this, I thank my lucky stars I have such an awesome husband who is my equal and not my boss. Doesn't do horrible things and doesn't lecture me. Helps around the house that he also lives in and dirties.

To the OP...if I was you, I'd take all those dirty dishes and wet rags you used to clean up that flood and pile them directly onto his sleeping lazy ass. Then I would be having a serious talk with him about the SHARING of housework. One who won't wash any dishes does not have the right to lecture. Call me a suffragette but there would be a stoppage of all cooking and cleaning and sex until he manned up and got off his high horse.

I don't think suffragette means what you think it means, lol. And your advice to the OP sucks as much as you do. Assault on her husband with dirty rags is not the answer.  

Lol...I'm not sure why it is that I suck but ok.

Yes, the rag piling was sarcasm. Suffragette was the wrong term to use as it is descriptive of a person involved in a political movement. I was more thinking of the complaints of the husbands of suffragettes that they had stopped doing their work at home to go to their protests.

barbarajon444

What a jerk! Sorry for you, you should try to talk him directly about this type of childish behavior of him, how you feel about this, try to make him understand you etc after all you both are husband wife and communication plays very important role.