Gut feeling?

SandiaPinaMama

Or setting myself up for failure? 

With my last pregnancy, when we told our families, I was constantly telling people that it was early, cautioning them that things could go wrong, etc.  I never really "felt" pregnant.  I didn't imagine what it would be like when that baby came.  It was like I knew that I wouldn't get to take that baby home.  

With this pregnancy, I feel pregnant, partly I assume because I'm experiencing more symptoms already.  I also feel so sure that I get to bring this baby home.  Now, of course, our families are so cautious, but I feel like telling them this will be fine.

Am I setting myself up for heartbreak?  Do you believe your gut about such things?  What are your thoughts/experiences?  Discuss.  

nanabanana06

I had a gut feeling that something was wrong with my miscarriage. We still got all excited and told everybody right away. However, I had all this fear that I wasn't going to end with a baby. Well, my gut was right. I miscarried.

With this pregnancy I felt different from the beginning. I somehow felt that this baby was my rainbow. Sometimes gut feelings can be right.

CnAnA

I am a big believer in gut feelings.  With my first pregnancy, I told my sister 2 days after I found out I was pregnant that I'm not sure what the deal was, but I just had this feeling that I would not be bringing a baby home.  I wasn't sure when or how it would happen, but that was not my take home baby.  I tried to be positive, but that was always in the back of my mind.

With this pregnancy, it just *felt* different from the moment I turned a pee stick positive.  It was a lot easier to stay positive when the gut feeling wasn't there.

Allycat11

I wouldn't necessarily go around telling everyone that things will be fine but I did tell people that things were looking good as I had evidence of it (good betas, strong h/b, etc...). 

Sometimes my gut is right, sometimes it is wrong. For example, there were times while TTC that I KNEW I was pregnant...I wasn't.  However, with my m/c I was very cautious about that pregnancy from the very beginning, it was like I knew something wasn't right.  With this pregnancy, I was/ still am cautious but I also had a feeling that everything was going to be just fine. 

carabear87

Took the words right out of my mouth! I just felt like my first 2 pregnancies were "off" I just didn't think I was going to see them ever, and I was right. My gut feeling told me that August is our month, I just knew I was going to conceive. Its a strange feeling but like you said I'm actually imagining taking this LO home and what its going to be like with a giant belly and all the stuff that goes along with pregnancy. I have never felt that way before. But who knows, there have been times my gut was wrong but Im hoping this will not be one of those times.

4legsRbest

I didn't have a gut feeling either way either time, but I am glad you are having a positive response to this one! I think remaining positive and trying not to let the negativity take over is a deathly approach to anything.

mmm920

I believe you just know, or some people do. Or at least that was my experience. With my m/c in January (2nd pregnancy) I told my family just like I did with my DS except I just felt "doomed." Time went so slow. Every day I prayed to God that if I were to m/c to please do it naturally. And I did, 10 days later--the day after I told my husband that we needed to go to Church right away and that I was going to call the OBs office the very next morning because I needed an ultra sound for my nerves.

It's crazy, I guess I just knew. With DS and this pregnancy it's so different. I'm not sick but I do have some symptoms and looking back I did too with DS. Just not sever symptoms. Also I don't feel that sense of doom that I had before with this one an with DS. Time isn't moving so slow and I ended up telling a few people. I know I can't jinx this pregnancy and with how I'm feeling I decided to tell some friends and we'll tell family this weekend. I figure if anything happens they'll know anyways.

Good luck. Go with your gut. Also, my friend has a missed m/c with her first pregnancy and she got pregnant right away with her DS. She told us right away after she found out about her second pregnancy. She just said she had a good feeling and was at peace with her second pregnancy. She knew!  

 

orangegoggles

As much as I was surprised or shocked about my three losses, I always did know something was "off". Even though I tried to push it aside I did have a gut feeling. You know thats what one of my doctor said about my last loss, she gave me an extra u/s because she believes a mother has some extinct. (We had the u/s and everything was fine, didn't m/c until a few weeks later but..she took my fears seriously and yes, at the time I was put off by that comment).

Even though I was still scared sh!tless this time, deep down I think and hope everything will be ok. I can envision a future with this little one. I really believe in the mother extinct, though I know anxiety and other fears can sometimes confuse things when they really are going to be just fine, kwim?

Rachaeleigh

I'd really like to say that I have a gut feeling but at this point, I have difficulty seperating reality from fear, from past experiences, etc. If that makes sense. With my first m/c, I specifically remember not being able to imagine the end or the outcome. I wasn't surprised when I m/c. It was similiar with the last 2 m/c. I was in a constant state of "what if." But I don't know if thats because I had previously m/c or if I "knew" something wasn't right. I do have moments of feeling different about this pregnany, but then honestly I get afraid to feel that way. I hate it. I'm a believer in positive focus though so I just talk out loud to the LO growing in there and tell them to stay strong. I told DH the other day, "This time it's going to be ok." I'm not sure why I had the need to do so, maybe to let him know that really, I'll be ok. I know he worries about me. But, yes, I guess if I really look at how I feel I have had moments of confidence and generally feeling ok...so far. I've also had lots of anxiety. I hate PGAL. I miss the innocence. If all else fails, I go back to "reality" and think of what my RE said. With nothing found "wrong" on all of our testing, statistically speaking, he said he would be betting on me next time I became pregnant...that I would carry full term. Now, that really means nothing, he can't guarantee me anything of course. But I still hold onto it. I hope our feelings are right!

KMac570

I know what you mean.  With my last pregnancy, I definitely knew from the beginning that something wasn't right.  I tried so hard to be positive, but I knew.  The fact that I started spotting so early might have had something to do with it....but even after ultrasound after ultrasound showed that everything was normal, I really did just know in my gut that the pregnancy was not going to end well.  This time, we have had a lot of problems, and the pregnancy has been very touch and go from the beginning.  But even as I deal with this massive SCH that just won't go away, I still kind of feel deep down like everything will be okay in the end.  I mean, I'm terrified, but I still have this weird feeling.  Only time will tell I guess.  But I hope my gut feeling is right, despite so many signs pointing to the contrary!

srhcmt

I know that exact feeling.  When I was pregnant with my daughter it never occurred to me that anything could ever happen.  With my next pregnancy, for practically no reason beyond lighter symptoms I just knew that pregnancy wouldn't last.  Everyone would tell me all pregnancies were different, and I would try to believe them.  But there was something in my gut that knew far beyond what my symptoms were telling me or not telling me.  With this pregnancy I keep waiting for that fear, and every once in a while I will get the "what if's" but even that is warded off by this happiness and assurance that this baby will stick.  With the people that know though I am still cautious.  I've asked them to keep it quiet...I don't tend to be supersticious, but there is a part of me that wants to avoid jinxing this one by telling everyone like I did with the last pregnancies.

SandiaPinaMama

KMac570:

I know what you mean. nbsp;With my last pregnancy, I definitely knew from the beginning that something wasn't right. nbsp;I tried so hard to be positive, but I knew. nbsp;The fact that I started spotting so early might have had something to do with it....but even after ultrasound after ultrasound showed that everything was normal, I really did just know in my gut that the pregnancy was not going to end well. nbsp;This time, we have had a lot of problems, and the pregnancy has been very touch and go from the beginning. nbsp;But even as I deal with this massive SCH that just won't go away, I still kind of feel deep down like everything will be okay in the end. nbsp;I mean, I'm terrified, but I still have this weird feeling. nbsp;Only time will tell I guess. nbsp;But I hope my gut feeling is right, despite so many signs pointing to the contrary!

Fx for you that your SCH goes away. How stressful!

bananers

I am hoping my gut is wrong because I just can't see it with this pregnancy. I am hoping that's just fear and not my gut though.

SandiaPinaMama

bananers:

I am hoping my gut is wrong because I just can't see it with this pregnancy. I am hoping that's just fear and not my gut though.

Naners, I hope your gut is wrong too.  I think that so much of our PGAL experience is truly colored by how we felt with our previous loss(es).  T&Ps that for a H&H9mos and lessening fear!

SandiaPinaMama

Wow, I kind of worried I would get flamed for this post.  Guess I was wrong.  Thanks guys!

It's good to know that other people have these kinds of feelings too. The thing is that whether or not this is my rainbow baby, stressing about it will not change that, so I'm just trying to find a decent excuse to let go.  Between you guys, and yet another pos IC this morning, I think I'm doing okay.  

imwithrebel

Both of my losses happened before I even knew I was pregnant, so I never had the chance to get a gut feeling. I thought it would make me worry to death if I ever did get pregnant, but I've been surprised at how calm and relaxed I've been. Even when we had a bad ultrasound at 6w, I was worried, but had a peace about it. My husband was surprised because he wasn't nearly as positive as I was and usually I'm the worrier. But at 7w, we saw everything was fine. I also had a gut feeling it was twins from my first beta, but two ultrasounds had only shown one sac. So I was surprised, but not shocked when they found two heart beats on Friday.

BarooGirl

I have had so many mixed gut feeling with all 3 of my pregnancies.

((hugs))PgAL is tough.

Just know you cant jinx anything and you might as well enjoy every moment.

I do think good gut feelings are a great thing- go with it

KittyKatMom

I had a gut feeling about the cycle we conceived, even before I O'd. For some reason, I just had this really strong feeling that it would be our cycle. I had wanted to start TTC #2 in July or August of 2012, but DH wanted to start sooner, so we started in October 2011 and I conceived in December. With that pregnancy, I had started to get AF symptoms, including heavy spotting, so I was surprised by the BFP. And for some reason, I was really nervous about the pregnancy from day one. I ended up miscarrying in February, so it wasn't meant to be, I guess.

Five months later, it was July, and sure enough, I didn't get my typical pre-AF symptoms that usually start around 7dpo that cycle, so I tested at 10dpo. I left the room while I was waiting and when I went back in to look at the test, it looked negative. I thought to myself, "That can't be right." And when I looked closer, I saw the faint line. It wasn't even all that shocking because for some reason, I just knew it would be positive.

I had the same kind of gut feeling with my DS. We conceived him our first cycle TTC, but for some reason, I knew it would happen. It was like I was just waiting to see the BFP, not wondering whether it happened or not.

We go for our first u/s on Thursday, so hopefully my gut was right about this being our second take-home baby!

Claytonia

I don't trust my gut. During the months when I was certain I was pregnant, I actually wasn't. I had 4 chemical pregnancies and with all of them I got really excited and thought it would stick we didn't tell anyone though. This month I had zero gut feelings and I got a nice and bright positive 2 days ago, which keeps getting darker every day! We're still not telling anyone until the second trimester, except my boss because a pregnancy will have a direct impact on my work and we need to make plans in advance.

Mrs.DeliaMarieP

Yes, I had that sensation with my miscarriage as well.  Right from the get-go I was nervous about it all, and even mentioned to a friend that had recently mc'd herself that "who knows, I may miscarry, too" and a few days before I started bleeding I told her "If I didn't know I was pregnant, I wouldn't know I was pregnant" because of lack of symptoms.

With this one, I was very, very nervous and scared of another miscarriage, but I wasn't as negative about it as I was with that one. 

FreyaWin2382

While I was nervous with both of my previous pregnancies, I didn't have any "gut feelings" or really any symptoms that anything wasn't right....the only way my miscarriages were ever found were by ultrasound. In fact, this was one of the things that I beat myself up about a lot in the beginning, the "why didn't I know?!".

I don't know if I had any "gut feelings" about this pregnancy....but the one thing that I have tried to do is to celebrate every day and milestone and try not to obsess over the what-ifs. 

weddedwife

I never felt like anything was wrong with my last pg. And this one, well, I think the fear is interfering with any ability to decipher "gut" feelings.

I do like to think that sometimes my gut can be very accurate. But with pg, now I'm not so sure.

MWoodside

I don't trust my gut feeling anymore.

I am paranoid during pg in general, not just post-loss.  But During my #2 pg (my loss) I had actually eased up & felt at peace & like I didn't need to worry anymore.  Then at a routine prenatal appt I found out baby had died.  So now I am just a nervous wreck this time.

I hope your gut feeling is right though.

astarisborn

Call it woman intuition...or something else, but I had this gut feeling last time (my loss) and was extremely anxious and worried about my first prenatal appointment at 9 weeks.  I kept telling my husband and he said it was just nerves, but I didn't understand why I wasn't excited.  That day we found out the baby stopped growing at 5 1/2 weeks. 

This time was so different.  Like you said, I "felt" pregnant every step of the way.  I had this really good feeling about this time and even though I was nervous about our first appointment, I didn't have a bad feeling about it.  I pictured this as our take home baby.  

All I can tell is to think positively about this experience.  You love your baby right now at this moment.  That helps me get through the rough, doubting days. 

E&Jhssweethearts

I knew from the day of the BFP last time that it wasn't ok. Like you we told family, but I warned that it was early and I had ben spotting, everyone gave me the, "well, that can be normal" story. 

This time, I KNEW things would be alright. So far they are and I am hoping they continue that way.