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ashiapablo

my fiance is sooo excited to be a daddy, talks and kisses my tummy all the time. do most 18 year old do this when they're young dads?

LilBlkDress1

Most 18 year old's aren't dads. 

Coltsdad

The above poster is correct.  Most 18 year olds aren't dads.  I can't even begin to speak for 18 year olds, especially those who have pregnant girlfriends/fiancees/wives, what have you, as I haven't been 18 for over 18 years (damn, I'm old).  I think it just depends on the person.

RockyTopVols

I am 25 and do that to my wife's stomach. So I guess I am close to your fiance's age.

However, I could not imagine having to bear the responsibilities of a child and fiancee/wife at the age of 18. It is hard enough right now making pretty good money, making two vehicle payments, mortgage payments, student loan payments, typical expenses, doctor visits, etc.

Not to be mean, but- I hope you guys are taking this seriously. You can get all sweet and doe-eyed about it.. heck, you're in it now whether you like it or not.. but, this is a real event that you guys have decided to embark on. And yes, the moment you two decided to have sex is a decision you made that says "I am ready to accept the responsibilities of a child because by doing this... I could have one".

It is sweet your fiance is treating it like this- but you guys have an extremely tough road ahead of you. You are both young, you are pregnant, you are now engaged because I assume you are pregnant- the statistics do not bode well for you two. Just being realistic.

Have you guys talked about finances? Do you guys live together? Do both of you work? What is the plan after the baby is here? What about post high school education?  I am going to assume one or both of you live with parents- are they prepared for the burden of raising grandchildren?

Reading your one other post on here and now this one- I don't think you and your fiance fully appreciate what you have gotten yourselves into. It isn't going to be a sweet little angel while you and your fiance live happily ever after as a little family unit in a house with a white picket fence and the sun setting in the background. It is going to nasty, smelly, loud, sleepless, irritating, etc etc.

It is going to be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life up to this point. At 18.. I promise.. you haven't even touched the iceberg of having things "tough". 

Cmartin6706

LilBlkDress1:

Most 18 year old's aren't dads.nbsp;

This! And most 18yr olds shouldn't be dads. Why are you asking us this? It doesn't change that he's a dad.

Nimh Lane

Regardless...of the fact that you are both young, and presumably less financially secure (though this isn't always the case, and being older doesn't always make for better parenting, financially or emotionally)...I think a congratulations is in order! For both you and your fiance on your new addition to the family, and for embracing this very radical and FULFILLING change happening in the both (also grandparents etc.!) of your lives. He is clearly elated at the prospect of being able to experience your baby for himself, and talking to and being close to your baby bump is a great way for men to help themselves feel closer to the life growing inside of you! When you get to the 2-3 trimesters, Baby can actually HEAR your voice, so I would encourage you and your future husband to keep this up!!!  You will get a lot of guff from older parents etc. about your age and being pregnant, but keep your chin up! You can do it, and so can your fiance, sounds like your off to the right start! *hugs*

samsterrr

I am also on the young side! I am 19 and the babies father is 21. This was unplanned as im assuming yours was? Although we are both financially on our own, living together, we are both very anxious for this baby. There are many things to think about and I hope and pray that you two will be able to do it and be parents together and still be happy! Good luck, and please dont think its all going to be rainbows because you will be highly disappointed when he isn't all kisses with a screaming baby.

ladyjenna13

I think the excitement is great. Means that he is already very emotionally involved in the pregnancy. I can tell you though, as a new father, that exciitement gets replaced by a very, very real sense of responsibility like no other.

I cannot imagine having to face that responsibility at such a young age. However, with the right kind of support, and the two of you taking parenting seriously, there is no reason why it cannot be done. Just remember, a newborn is more work than you will ever know, until you experience it firsthand. Enjoy the excitement now, while you can, because the real hard part of parenting is coming up on you guys quick.

Any young man excited about his child is a good thing, in my book!!!

ladyjenna13

samsterrr:

I am also on the young side! I am 19 and the babies father is 21. This was unplanned as im assuming yours was? Although we are both financially on our own, living together, we are both very anxious for this baby. There are many things to think about and I hope and pray that you two will be able to do it and be parents together and still be happy! Good luck, and please dont think its all going to be rainbows because you will be highly disappointed when he isn't all kisses with a screaming baby.

The bolded part is the part I would be most worried about. There is nothing cute about being up at 2am with a scraming newborn and not knowing what the reason is for the screaming fit. There are no books to get you through that one!!

At the age of 18 I do not know if a boy or girl are wired to handle that yet. It is both frustrating and scary since you want the screaming to stop, and you are afraid that it is more than just a dirty diaper or being hungry when it goes beyond 10 minutes.

There is nothing exciting about those moments....they are draining!