JandK

Rachey1082

So, Jack drinks vanilla coconut milk, which I just started mixing with unsweetened to try and switch over to unsweetened completely.

my mother is being super judgey about giving Jack non dairy milk. She claims it's loaded with sugar and won't even listen to what I have to say about what my child drinks. She even gave him regular milk when she watched him last which gave him horrible gas pains and 5 poopy diapers in a row.

I guess my question is... Besides explaining the sugar, how I don't let my LOs have juice or other sugar filled drinks, how WCM naturally contains sugar, and so does BM, I'm not sure if I should send her an article on coconut milk? What would you do?

JaysonandKristin

Bottom line:  Jack was in pain from gas/bloating and had frequent bowel movements until the dairy was out of his system.  Your mother did that to your son.  Tell her that's what she did to him.

If she can't be trusted to watch him without giving him dairy, she doesn't get to watch him.  

I mean, I know it sounds rough, but she is not his MOTHER...  she doesn't get to make dietary calls like that.  She upset his digestive tract ON PURPOSE.  That's so infuriating to me.  Who would do that to a 1 year old?

You're not just picking up the first alternative milk you see, you've seen the reaction he has from dairy and you're cutting it from his diet.  There's no simpler explanation than his digestive tract needs a little more time to mature in order to handle dairy.  Hell, it may never be able to handle dairy.  

You have to know your sh!t when it comes to consuming anything other than the typical Western diet.  Not just for nay-sayers, but in the event you come across someone who is experiencing symptoms like Jack when they consume dairy.  

Get your nutrition facts straight... not actual numbers, but know where coconut beats WCM in terms of nutrition, and where it falls short.  Then, you figure out how you're going to substitute the deficiencies in his diet with other foods.  Tell your mom this information.  

I hate sounding like a b!tch when it comes to this kind of stuff because I know it is pretty off-putting.  I can't really say what you should do because I don't know your mother-daughter dynamic, but your job is to protect your sons and their health.  It doesn't sound like your mom realizes what she's doing to his little body.  I would start there.

Rachey1082

My mother does a lot for us financially right now. H is in school and working full time, I'm working as much as possible, but there are some needs that we aren't able to take care of at this point. I honestly think she believes she has more control over our family because of it. As soon as our house sells we won't have to rely on her anymore.

She pays a sitter to watch the boys at her house every wednesday. It's kind of goofy, but whatever. She says she likes to cook them a nice dinner and spend one on one time with them while they're there which is why she has a sitter over. Anyway, last week she gave him WCM with dinner. When I figured out why he was sick for one Liam told me that she gave them both
WCM I called her up and told her that she can't watch him if she does it again. This week she didn't do it but also refused to give him the box of coconut milk I packed. Every time I bring it up or try and explain it she ignores what I'm saying.

She's judgey, controlling, used to be type a, maybe still is? But she really has good intentions. She's fully aware that if it happens again that her Wednesday afternoon of special time is gone.

Roselis

I don't really have advice, but that is horrible that she did that.

My sister is lactose intolerant so she drinks almond milk instead. I am lactose sensitive so I don't drink a lot of milk either.

Could you get something from your pediatrician to explain that? The only way to get my exMIL to listen to some of the stuff XH and I wanted for A was to show her stuff from the pediatrician. ex-MIL is a nurse, so she thinks she knows what she is doing, or asks her friend who is a pediatric nurse. XH and I had to put our foot down and tell her that it needs to be done our way or she won't watch him anymore. I have had to do that to my mom too.

Good luck