Push presents: tacky or sentimental?

BabyCarryingVessel

I didn't realize there was so much hatred out there for push presents! I personally will not be receiving a push present, but I probably will treat myself to a pedicure before the babies are born. Did your S/O give you a push present? I don't think they're tacky, but my push present will (hopefully) be two healthy little girls.

JenLC99

I didn't know there was hate toward push presents. I didn't get anything in particular after my two singletons, but after my twins I got a sushi dinner, a mommy brag necklace from The Vintage Pearl, and a new Fossil purse. I thought it was awesome.

leviandlandensmom

I think they're ridiculous. You get babies - that should be a good enough prize for enduring months of pregnancy, labor, and delivery.

JustcallmeGG2

i took a poll on my month board a while back and EVERYONE hated them.

well, guess what?  i like presents.  i asked for a rose gold necklace with the babies initials on them.  this is it.  i wanted something symbolic that incorporated the babies.

 

BananaPancake

I am ALL for them. Pregnancy is ROUGH, and you don't just get babies. You get 6 weeks of bleeding, 2 hellish months of adjusting to breastfeeding and 4 weeks of hormones trying to sort themselves out. For all of that, I'd never shake my head at a little something sparkly. 

Mama-Bear

I don't think they're tacky, but I think the term is tacky.

amh04

I think its tacky to demand one. If your husband wants to get you something out of love and appreciation, without you being on him for it, then it's really sweet. But when you say 'I want this, this, and this, for being pregnant' that is horribly tacky. You are having a healthy baby, or babies in our case, that is a gift enough.

E&RMommy

I received a ruby neklace which is really for my daughter and on loan to me until she is older.  Super sweet and sentimental.

leviandlandensmom

amh04:

I think its tacky to demand one. If your husband wants to get you something out of love and appreciation, without you being on him for it, then it's really sweet. But when you say 'I want this, this, and this, for being pregnant' that is horribly tacky. You are having a healthy baby, or babies in our case, that is a gift enough.

Exactly. I think getting something from your husband because he loves you, not because you just pushed out a baby, is very sweet.

mmbench

When I first got pregnant, I'll admit I wanted a big ole ring like some of my friends had.  But then it was twins, and it was hardly practical at that point.  DH got me a nice locket with the girls' pictures inside.  The clasp has been broken for a while, otherwise I'd still be wearing it.

lovemygs

Hatred? Geez that's a bit over the top. I say why not? I went through hell and back to have these boys, so why don't I deserve a little something? DH got me a second wedding band. No, I didn't demand it. Yes, I really love it.

srbmvp

I vote for option 3.... I think a "push present" is tacky persay, but a gift to symbolize the amazing gift you created, I am all for.

After DS1 was born, DH bought me a pearl ring b/c pearl is my son's birthstone. And we obviously didn't know it at the time, but he doesn't have to buy me another ring b/c it was actually a pearl with two small diamonds on either side. And of course the twins' birthstone is diamond! DH lucked out, and so did I, since we obviously can't afford expensive jewelry anymore

When I look at my ring, I think of the amazing joy that my boys and family bring into my lives, not, hey a little payola for all that hard work I did during my pregnancies.

2moms2b

I don't think it is tacky for your SO to give you present for carrying the LO's through pregnancy.  Pregnancy is hard!  While completely worth it to finally meet your LO(s), I think if someone wants to give you a gift that is perfectly fine.  I do think it is tacky to demand or ask for one.  I think the bad rep for push presents is due to some people demanding or asking for ridiculous things like cars or expensive jewelry or from the ladies that get upset and pout because they didn't get one.  I will never turn down a gift from my SO but then again I don't ask or demand them. But ultimately to each their own!

wendylaine

I am buying myself a present this time! (read on before you scoff at me)

DH never got me one and that was FINE with me. I wasn't going to ask, and I DID get my baby! This time however I am a surrogate. So I am doing all this without the babies at the end.

(which is fine, I knew that when I agreed to do it, they are not mine biologically, and I know I am giving this other mom a great gift)

BUT I did decide to treat myself to something sparkly once the babies are born this time. I want to wait and see what month they are born in and get something with that birth stone so I can always have them with me : )

mysteriousmommy

EXPECTING one is completely tacky.

BabyCarryingVessel

wendylaine:

I am buying myself a present this time! (read on before you scoff at me)

DH never got me one and that was FINE with me. I wasn't going to ask, and I DID get my baby! This time however I am a surrogate. So I am doing all this without the babies at the end.

(which is fine, I knew that when I agreed to do it, they are not mine biologically, and I know I am giving this other mom a great gift)

BUT I did decide to treat myself to something sparkly once the babies are born this time. I want to wait and see what month they are born in and get something with that birth stone so I can always have them with me : )

 Oh my goodness! You are a wonderful person. I think that gift to yourself is a terrific idea.

jessibel00

I gave birth to our boys 10 days before our first anniversary. My husband gave me a combo push/anniversary present of a Mother's Ring with my 13 year old's birthstone and the twins' birthstone. I love it! 

MelleTX

The twins are "buying" me a mother's gift. Some sort of jewelry that has the girls initials. Nothing fancy though.  They insisted on it, I swear. : )

MrsLucky2013

I think a push present is an unfortunate name for something very nice - as long as the attitude behind it is in the right spirit.

JustcallmeGG2, I love your push present, and tacky or not I will be hoping for something very similar!  I think it is a nice way to recognize that the mommy does a little more work producing the kiddos.  Not to suggest that baby isn't present enough, but it is sort of a nice gesture!  Where did you get your necklace from, if you don't mind me asking?  I LOVE the rose color and initials!

KrisRene9

MelleTX:

The twins are "buying" me a mother's gift. Some sort of jewelry that has the girls initials. Nothing fancy though.  They insisted on it, I swear. : )

 

I love this!

I agree with most of the posts, tacky to ask/demand one but I think it is perfectly fine if SO ( or the baies ) wants to give one