um - what is a play date? (yikes.. out of touch)

minaa7

So, I know this is stupid..  But.. 

A super nice lady who lives in my neighborhood stopped outside our house while she was walking her stroller and gave me her number so we could get together!  - I think it's SO sweet and I am super happy to meet another mom with young kids near me..  but, here's the stupid part..  I work full-time and I have no Mommy friends.  I kind of don't know what to do at a playdate.  Do you just drink coffee while your kids play?  What do you talk about?  (omg why am I such a freak haha)

EastCoastBride

Yes - you get together, the kids play, and as much as you can, the two of you talk (you will be dealing w/ the kids too!).  What you eat or drink is up to you.  I host playdates at my house on Friday afternoons and we have wine or beer.   

ridesbuttons

You just meet the other mom and kid whereever (her house, your house, a playground) and let the kids do whatever they are going to do while you try and have a visit with the adult.

carlab44

Depending on the weather we'll do playdates either at one of our houses, or at the park or beach (or if it's with someone I know well we'll go someplace like the zoo, aquarium, children's museum, etc). Yeah, usually the adults (try to) talk while the kids play. Talk about whatever - hobbies, family, the kids, the weather, work, etc. 

bumpuser511563

I would so be nervous. I had the courage to ask for a phone number and I am a chicken to actually make the call. I am a freak.

brewcitybride

kids play. moms chat. that's about it.

minaa7

haha  I am kind of glad (not really but kind of) to see your reply!! 

I feel like yeah I am an awesome Mom - but I am so not in the loop with socializing with other Moms.  I am even in a Moms group in my community and the couple things I've gone to I feel looked down on for being a working Mom.  It's hard!

 

Sailor Saturn:

I would so be nervous. I had the courage to ask for a phone number and I am a chicken to actually make the call. I am a freak.

minaa7

Thanks ladies!!  I am just nervous!!  I appreciate everyone's replies 

haha  I especially like the one where wine is involved

honkytonk_kid

If you're a freak, I'm a freak, haha. I am so awkward sometimes.

It's just like making new friends any time in your life- there's sometimes an awkward phase at the beginning while getting to know one another. Think jr high- omg who am I going to sit with at lunch? or college freshman- where do I sit in this huge lecture hall? or starting a new job- how does everything work around here? But the good thing about playdates is you can always default to talking about your kids until you know what else to say

Just call her! If it's at your house, make coffee in the morning or iced tea for the afternoon and relax. Chances are she had to psych herself up to give you her number as well!

minaa7

Alright!!  I did it - I just called the very nice neighbor back and we made a play-date to go over to her house on Saturday morning 

I'm excited..  and a little scared!!  But I am excited for the next step of Mommy-hood (making friends I mean!) 

futuremrsmcnichols

Some co-worker friends of mine and myself get together with the kids once a month. The kids play. Whoever is hosting usually makes some food, like a simple crock pot meal. We eat and talk about stuff. Work stuff. Baby stuff. Life stuff.

We also have an adult only date night usually once every 3 or 4 months. We go out to eat, to a comedy club, amusement park without husbands or kids, although our conversation topics are usually the same.

minaa7

Love it!  Mommy 'date nights' once a month sounds like so much fun.