How likely is unsupervised visitation for him?

ShelbehhRawrr

I just want to feel better until our court date in a month : 

 

He just filed for visitation but I feel very strongly and know that she will not be properly taken care of, and possibly in danger if he takes the baby anywhere alone.

He is with someone underage, on probation for  domestic violence, doesn't work.. I also have texts and messages from him saying that I had an abortion or a misscarriage throughout my pregnancy.

Through my pregnancy he lied, cheated, got someone else pregnant and only spent 20$ for the baby. I tried contacting him to make peace and make certain days a week to come see the baby, apparently thats not good enough because he just filed for a court date 

 His family also doesn't like the baby, never believed she was his and also wanted me to miscarry. They also threatened me while I was pregnant and have called the baby ugly and a mistake. His mother is a chain smoker and his dad also smokes and they both smoke in the house.

Also, he lied to the court about how long we were having sexual actions.

 

How likely is it to get visitation...  I just want to feel a little better.

newyoungmama

At this young there is NO F-ING WAY. And with the Dom violence background chances are slim after baby gets older anyways

DaringMiss

Since your child is so young, he is unlikely to get overnight visitations.  But if he has been determined to be the father, he has a right to see his child - even if he is likely to be a cruddy father.  The DV stuff won't completely disqualify him unless it involved violence towards children.  

I think the evidence is likely to entitle him to supervised visitations.  But how likely is he to actually take that visitation?  

Just keep a running log of his texts and messages and actions.  If he threatens you, call the police.  If he emails something foul, keep a copy.   If he declines visitations, keep the text or email copy so that you show his pattern of involvement.  Finally, keep a paper log of his actions -- the old fashioned kind - like on a calendar or day planner.  Courts really like to see that.

And YOU have to be absolutely circumspect in your communications.  Don't respond to his taunts, don't lash out in anger - no matter how much of a jerk he is.  Your responses will be evidence as well, so before you push send on a text or email, make sure it is what you would want a judge to see.  He will bait you.  Be as impersonal as you can.  Be as clear and as simple as you can.  Pick up times, drop off times, medical information, latest info on the baby.  Nothing more. 

kllrbnny

DaringMiss:

Since your child is so young, he is unlikely to get overnight visitations.  But if he has been determined to be the father, he has a right to see his child - even if he is likely to be a cruddy father.  The DV stuff won't completely disqualify him unless it involved violence towards children.  

I think the evidence is likely to entitle him to supervised visitations.  But how likely is he to actually take that visitation?  

Just keep a running log of his texts and messages and actions.  If he threatens you, call the police.  If he emails something foul, keep a copy.   If he declines visitations, keep the text or email copy so that you show his pattern of involvement.  Finally, keep a paper log of his actions -- the old fashioned kind - like on a calendar or day planner.  Courts really like to see that.

And YOU have to be absolutely circumspect in your communications.  Don't respond to his taunts, don't lash out in anger - no matter how much of a jerk he is.  Your responses will be evidence as well, so before you push send on a text or email, make sure it is what you would want a judge to see.  He will bait you.  Be as impersonal as you can.  Be as clear and as simple as you can.  Pick up times, drop off times, medical information, latest info on the baby.  Nothing more. 

This exactly. You can never say never when going to court, especially for custody & visitation situations.