what happened to the doc's advice?

mec986

Yesterday I went in for my 38 wk. check up.  I had been up all night Monday with cramps, some contractions, and major major back ache.  I have very loose stools and just generally felt like something was changing with me.  I explained all this to him.  He did my internal and I had progressed from 2-4 cm and 60-80 percent effaced.  I was surprised.  He suggested we do a membrane sweep to get labor moving and left me with his little words of wisdom...I'm on call tomorrow but I expect you will have a baby in your arms by then. 

I spent the rest of the day really crampy and had a few hours of real 5 min. apart contractions.  Hubby and I got everything geared up and in the car but I felt like we didn't need to rush and and I wanted to get in the shower to relax.  After I get out of the shower everything STOPS!! 

I break down crying that the doc gave me false hope and crash in bed and slept really well.  I even woke up this morning in one of those rare instances and didn't feel preggers!  

I've lost hope.  I mean rationally I know baby can't stay forever.  But I'm so bummed that the doc was blowing air up my ass.  UGH!  Any hope out there for me yet?  Could I still have a baby soon?  God, I hate that word...soon...humph! *on a good note I did have my bloody show before I went to bed*

HKearl

Bodies are weird like that. Who knows what'll happen in the next few hours, you may find yourself with more contractions again! I'm sending happy labor thoughts your way so you jump back on that contraction train! GL!

Manx4

You still have a week and a half left before your estimated due date, baby is still growing.  Sweeping membranes will only work if your body is READY to go into labor...therefore if it's not ready - it's not going to work. 

Doctors aren't psychics either, they can give best estimates and educated guesses but that doesn't mean they're right 100% of the time.  

 First time moms are usually late, I believe the average gestation for a FTM is 40w3d.  So just enjoy the last few days you have being pregnant, realize this is the "easy" part and know no one was ever pregnant forever.  You won't be either.

hterry85

I personally hate when Drs say when they think you'll have the baby by. They really have NO idea and I don't know why would get your hopes up! With DD we left our last appt before my induction and she said she'd see us then. DH commented or before? She just smiled and said no she would see us at the induction. lol It made those last few days so much more bearable to not "expect" to go into labor at anytime.

thenorris3

I feel your pain! I know I have at least two weeks to go but my body keeps giving me all the signs that labor is close. Im just trying to focus on the fact that when labor does come we are already almost half way done so fingers crossed for a short labor! Good luck hang in there your not alone!

mec986

thanks ladies for being understanding.  i know doc's aren't always right...and that they are human...but i just wish they'd keep the "maybe's" to themselves.  i am dealing with enough physical and emotional changes as it is and it would help to just deal with facts.  i guess it's a FTM lesson learned...the only FACT is i'm pregnant and will eventually experience physical symptoms that will allow me to finally meet my little one's adorable face!

good luck to all of you feeling the same way as well...lets keep sending the good mojo around

cmarie520

I'm sorry you got excited and don't have your baby yet.  I'm feeling the same way.  I feel like I have been very even keeled and have kept my emotions in control this whole pregnancy, but not today.  I'm extra uncomfortable today and I just feel like today could be the day.  But I don't even want to think that because realistically I know I could have 3 more weeks.  I'm doing my best to focus on other tasks and if baby comes, he comes. 

tmungro1

Well, I agree the good thing is you DID have your bloody show. That means you probably will go into labor soon. My friend went 4 days late and was bummed but afterwards ended up being really happy because those last few days help the baby a lot with brain development and their ability to suck (for breastfeeding). Just keep in mind, baby is getting so much out of being in your body a little longer, making LO healthier and stronger for their life ahead!

 Best wishes for a safe and healthy labor and birth!

L8kissie

The baby will come. Maybe it just wasn't quite time yet. I know it is frustrating, but they know when it is time. Do something like reading a book or seeing a movie that will be harder to do with LO. Your body will do its thing. GL.