Pictures...

a&aw12707

We finally got the pictures the hospital took on Friday. Im not sure if I want anyone to see then but DH and myself. Did you show your pictures to anyone?

LoveOfMikesLife

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At first no. But then we printed some and have them hanging just like we would have done had she been alive. 

krysiahamaty

We have one picture and it's displayed in our house. But at first we did not. Do whatever is comfortable for YH and you and as time passes, that might change or it mIght not.
Big hugs.

undianormal

I wasn't even far enough into my pregnancy to have any pictures when I miscarried. I was grateful that I didn't tell many people so I didn't have to explain what happened to anyone outside of my best friend and a few family members. But it is still a touchy subject for my husband and I. I don't even like looking at the baby things we had bought with him. So, I don't think I would personally. But I had a cousin with a similar situation and she showed me her pictures after her loss. But that had been after almost a year. I guess it just depends on what you feel comfortable with.

weddedwife

It took us about a week to look at the pix. They didn't look like I remember him. No one IRL has seen them other than DH and myself. He was very, very purple in the face and somewhat purple all over so I can see how they would be disturbing to look at, despite the beauty we see in his face.

I did end up sending one to a close friend, who is a photographer. I had him try to "touch it up" to see if anything could be done to make it displayable. It looks very doctored and still unfortunately looks like a dead baby So we won't be displaying any but we do have his u/s photo and his footprints framed. I also got a picture from Christian's Beach and we have that framed as well.

kikibelle

My midwife took lots of pictures of Julian. It took me a few days to be able to look at them, but now I'm so glad I have them. I've only recently started to want to frame one or share some with close friends. My mom showed them to a few close family members and her best friend. So far, I've only showed them to my counselor. Julian wasn't blue or anything-he just looks like a perfect, sleeping newborn in the pictures. I think even if he was blue or showed other signs of trauma I would want to share the pictures. We're all mommies who are proud of our babies and want to show them off : )

karebear57

I have only shared with my boys and sister (b/c they asked to see her) and of course dh but I haven't shared her pics with anyone else. But everyone's different, so I would just go with your gut...share only if your comfortable.

jbranden12

I made an album of my pregnancy and included the photos taken by us and nilmdts at the hospital. I have shown the album to many family and friends, even a couple of work colleagues I am close to. I have also posted a family photo and one of her precious feet on Facebook, though it took me a few months to do that. I love sharing photos of her and I think it makes her more real to people who never had the chance to meet her.

a&aw12707

Thank you for the replies ladies. I think I might show them to very close family one day, but I don't think it will be soon.

philfemgal

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We have one picture of Alice's feet that I did feel comfortable sharing with my family.  Her feet were just so perfect looking. We have that photo framed and in our bedroom (where no one else is likely to see it.)

The pictures of her face, unfortunately, came out very blurry.  And she was also very purple looking and so you can't see her features very well.

We ended up getting a sketch done based on a blurry facial shot and a less blurry but hard to see her face full body shot.  We used this site: https://www.stillbornmemorial.com/ and even though the photos weren't great and she was only 18.5 weeks, the sketch came out pretty well.  (I think they do the sketch aiming for, this is what the baby would have looked like at full term--with chubbier cheeks and eyelashes and that sort of thing.)  And I do think it capture some of her facial features.

The sketch is my avatar and we have felt comfortable sharing that with more people.  We have that framed and on the wall in our hallway.