How much is too much?

MR.&Mrs

So this weekend is supposed to be my fertile time. I went out and bought a walmart brand OPK (the dollar stores were sold out). My question is how much sex is bad? I have heard that too much sex can lower sperm counts and lower your chances of getting pregnant. I know this is a newbie question and is probably stupid, but I didn't know if this was fact or fiction. 

AHogan07

When coming into your fertile days I have always been told that at least having sex 2 to3 times a day EOO can increase your chances also when you O have sex that day at least 3 times and also the day after because sometimes you can Ovulate a day after. Sperm stay alive inside a women for 5 days so the more the better hopefully this will be your month.   

JilllyBean

Not sure what PP means exactly. OP, As far as I know, once a day is fine if there are no known issues with your H. EOD is fine as well.

MR.&Mrs

Thanks yall. I wasn't sure and I just really want it to be this month. Its my Bday month and we have been together for 7 yrs almost 8.

artistlife

AHogan07:

When coming into your fertile days I have always been told that at least having sex 2 to3 times a day EOO can increase your chances also when you O have sex that day at least 3 times and also the day after because sometimes you can Ovulate a day after. Sperm stay alive inside a women for 5 days so the more the better hopefully this will be your month.

That is a Sh!t ton of sex! I would not be able to have sex 2-3 times a day EOD. It also equals out to sex ED. OP EOD or ED is enough. It takes about 36 hours for sperm to replenish. If there is no known MFI you should be fine either way.

dana2die4

Yes, I have heard that also (about having too much sex can lower sperm count). Not sure what is true and what isnt. But we have sex once daily around ovulation time.

femmepink

AHogan07:

When coming into your fertile days I have always been told that at least having sex 2 to3 times a day EOO can increase your chances also when you O have sex that day at least 3 times and also the day after because sometimes you can Ovulate a day after. Sperm stay alive inside a women for 5 days so the more the better hopefully this will be your month.   

Whoa. I don't think I have that kind of time.

AngieMathews

Everything I have read says too much can be bad, sperm count decreases with each time. Some docs recommend every other day on your fertile days, others say one time a day is better.

CMDR513

Take this with a grain of salt.

With DS, we were successful first cycle hitting O and O+1. Last cycle we hit O-4 to O+1 (hitting O twice) and were unsuccessful. This month not sure if we'll hit every day due to work schedules. 

Erinm278

DH and are on our 3rd cycle trying and I have no reason to believe DH has any sperm problems.  Becuase of this, DH and I plan to have sex every day of our FW.  Our first month our timing was bad, last month we only hit 2 days in our FW, this time we are trying every day!  GL!

iambellaluna

Erinm278:

DH and are on our 3rd cycle trying and I have no reason to believe DH has any sperm problems.  Becuase of this, DH and I plan to have sex every day of our FW.  Our first month our timing was bad, last month we only hit 2 days in our FW, this time we are trying every day!  GL!

This - we are sexing everyday just to make sure we hit O. Last month I wasn't successful in pinpointing O due to BBT issues (thermometer broke mid-cycle) and I wasn't doing OPKs either. We didn't have enough sex the first month and I wasn't charting then either so I'm confident we never hit the FW.

AHogan07

Yes that is a lot of Sex but with my first that is what we did and viola BFP, the doctor suggested it because it increases your chances. Im just giving suggestions based on what has worked with me and other ladies I have known.   

AHogan07

It was a typo sorry I meant to say EOD, it seems like a lot but it doesnt all have to be in one session relax and nap then wake up and do it again it just makes sure you have covered all bases. 

BankerBSN

AHogan07:

Yes that is a lot of Sex but with my first that is what we did and viola BFP, the doctor suggested it because it increases your chances. Im just giving suggestions based on what has worked with me and other ladies I have known.   

Just stop.  ED or even EOD sex in your fertile window is plenty.  Did your doc give you this advice when you went in for betas in your 2WW? 

megemoney

ONCE every day, or every other day is sufficient.  There is no need to have sex 2-3 times a day.  Unless that is, you are that active.  In that case, good for you!

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TeamAwesomeBaby

I've heard it takes 12-36 hours for sperm to replenish, so I actually think that 2-3 times a day could be bad. That said, it only takes one good swimmer to knock you up, so if you want to go for it 3 times a day, every other day, be my guest. But I do think this would probably decrease sperm count from one spooge to the next. From the research I've done, EOD is sufficient and ED won't hurt your chances unless you're dealing with MFI.

We shoot for ED during my FW, and since we're pretty new to this, we tend to start ED a little too early. I was bow-legged by the end of last month. 

pgermain11

There's no formula for getting pregnant. Will having sex multiple times a day lower his sperm count? Probably, but it only takes 1 sperm. 

JilllyBean

Banker&BSN:

AHogan07:

Yes that is a lot of Sex but with my first that is what we did and viola BFP, the doctor suggested it because it increases your chances. Im just giving suggestions based on what has worked with me and other ladies I have known.   

Just stop.  ED or even EOD sex in your fertile window is plenty.  Did your doc give you this advice when you went in for betas in your 2WW? 

Seriously! AHogan, your advice has been sketchy in the few posts I have seen you post in.

skio

AHogan07:

When coming into your fertile days I have always been told that at least having sex 2 to3 times a day EOO can increase your chances also when you O have sex that day at least 3 times and also the day after because sometimes you can Ovulate a day after. Sperm stay alive inside a women for 5 days so the more the better hopefully this will be your month.   

lolwut

MsCraftsy

JilllyBean:

Banker&BSN:

AHogan07:

Yes that is a lot of Sex but with my first that is what we did and viola BFP, the doctor suggested it because it increases your chances. Im just giving suggestions based on what has worked with me and other ladies I have known.   

Just stop.  ED or even EOD sex in your fertile window is plenty.  Did your doc give you this advice when you went in for betas in your 2WW? 

Seriously! AHogan, your advice has been sketchy in the few posts I have seen you post in.

Agree w/ jillybean!

AHogan07

How is my advice sketchy? Just because you may not agree with what I post does not mean its sketchy. I know from personal experience and yes it has helped me and I also do seek professionals help and opinions on what I should do. So just because you do not agree with how I use my methods does not mean I am invalid. Its called an Opinion for a reason, if you are seeking Ultimate answers then none of these ladies on here can write anything because the only one who knows is God.   

AHogan07

I do not know what you mean by that but I hope it was not an attempt to make me feel bad about my test being negative at the doctors that is a really sensitive subject saying that I just had a miscarriage not even 3 months ago. This is what I have researched and found works everyone is going to give different advice does not mean one person is more valid than the other if she chooses to use a method she researched or something someone on here posted then thats her choice she just wanted to know opinions. Please look up the word Opinions. 

lobosabby

AHogan07:

I do not know what you mean by that but I hope it was not an attempt to make me feel bad about my test being negative at the doctors that is a really sensitive subject saying that I just had a miscarriage not even 3 months ago. This is what I have researched and found works everyone is going to give different advice does not mean one person is more valid than the other if she chooses to use a method she researched or something someone on here posted then thats her choice she just wanted to know opinions. Please look up the word Opinions. 

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AHogan07

lobosabby:

AHogan07:

I do not know what you mean by that but I hope it was not an attempt to make me feel bad about my test being negative at the doctors that is a really sensitive subject saying that I just had a miscarriage not even 3 months ago. This is what I have researched and found works everyone is going to give different advice does not mean one person is more valid than the other if she chooses to use a method she researched or something someone on here posted then thats her choice she just wanted to know opinions. Please look up the word Opinions. 

Please look up the QUOTE button so we know who you're talking to.

      Ok thank you

BankerBSN

AHogan07:

How is my advice sketchy? Just because you may not agree with what I post does not mean its sketchy. I know from personal experience and yes it has helped me and I also do seek professionals help and opinions on what I should do. So just because you do not agree with how I use my methods does not mean I am invalid. Its called an Opinion for a reason, if you are seeking Ultimate answers then none of these ladies on here can write anything because the only one who knows is God.   

You are right.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  But there is such a thing as giving bad advice.  Telling someone they need to have intercourse 2-3 times a day to conceive is bad advice and I doubt many, if any, Doctors would recommend it to thier patients who are TTC.

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Lotsofloveandkids

We do EOD. Once a day is fine as well.

AHogan07

Banker&BSN:

AHogan07:

How is my advice sketchy? Just because you may not agree with what I post does not mean its sketchy. I know from personal experience and yes it has helped me and I also do seek professionals help and opinions on what I should do. So just because you do not agree with how I use my methods does not mean I am invalid. Its called an Opinion for a reason, if you are seeking Ultimate answers then none of these ladies on here can write anything because the only one who knows is God.   

You are right.  Everyone is entitled to their own opinion.  But there is such a thing as giving bad advice.  Telling someone they need to have intercourse 2-3 times a day to conceive is bad advice and I doubt many, if any, Doctors would recommend it to thier patients who are TTC.

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    Okay but my doctor did say it could not hurt to have sex 2-3 times EOD I am not just making this up from the top of my head. I am just passing down something told to me by a medical professional if she tries it and it works that would be a blessing if she thinks its too much then that is ok also. What may be good for me and other people I have spoken to may not be good for you so just like I respect your opinions and advice respect mine also please. Good luck to you and your ttc.

nic_megan

Thank you so much for asking this question because I was wondering the same thing! Good to know it can't be too much and that once a day is plenty.

PrimRoseMama

My doctor said that every other day is sufficient. If you want to "go for the gold" and the achievement of every day, then by all means. I really think that perhaps two to three times a day may be overkill, though. If it takes you 6 months or longer to get pregnant your lady bits will be eroded on that schedule.

Leah112

My doc says EOD is fine or even 3 times a week if EOD isn't possible.  He says you need time to "rebuild" DH's sperm count so I wouldn't do more than once per day (unless your just having fun and want to).  I think sex once a day is more than enough IMO.  I always try to hit EOD or ED during fertile window but don;t over do it as it will get old very quickly...not to mention that much sex can be stressful!  GL!!

MR.&Mrs

Thank you all so much. I think we are going to continue ED for at least this week and as much of next week as possible. I just wasn't sure and I didn't want to shoot ourselves in the foot by having too much. And, we do occasionally have sex more than once a day. DH was just afraid that 3 or 4 times in a day would be too much and could hurt our chances. Again, thank you ladies. 

coleann04

From what I have read online from thebump.com and other websites they recommend every other day.  I think having sex 2-3 times a day, every day is a little much and honestly I don't think I nor my DH could do that LOL.  Even he says after a while of doing it a lot it begins to hurt him!  We have been trying since May and we have been doing every day during my fertile time and no luck yet for us so we are going to try the every other day this month and see if that gives us a luck.  Good luck!!

RunT8

2-3 times a day during fertile period seems beyond extreme... Before TTC I went to see my doc and she advised me to enjoy the time, to not go overboard because if you are going on many cycles it will become routine, and not fun. That can cause problems with the DH. 

I think once a day during your fertile period, or every other day is sufficient. Remember the swimmers take time to do their traveling.