Question on telling the family?

MechanicMama1

I was just wondering if anyone felt  little embarrassed that they were already pregnant? I have a four month old... They will be less than a year ad sorta feel like I will probably get some *** for this. I am married 24 and live in a 3 bedroom house dh make enough money but idk something still feels like I will be judged. No point to this really just wondering if anyone else ever felt like that

ktshafra

I did at first and then realized it's really nobody's business, that people don't have the right to judge me for this. We live in a culture that sees children as a burden instead of a blessing and I find that so sad. Now whenever I get annoying or judgmental comments I just respond with something positive or about how excited we are for the girls to grow up being such close friends. Most comments are from strangers. Inlaws had to just get over it and only made comments the first two times we saw them after telling them. Otherwise there's also been a lot of "oh my sister and I are 15 months apart and loved it!", etc.
I know it may be hard, but try not to let others ruin the joyful time ahead. :

MechanicMama1

Thanks so much this really helps!

MammaBear81

ktshafra:

I did at first and then realized it's really nobody's business, that people don't have the right to judge me for this. We live in a culture that sees children as a burden instead of a blessing and I find that so sad. Now whenever I get annoying or judgmental comments I just respond with something positive or about how excited we are for the girls to grow up being such close friends. Most comments are from strangers. Inlaws had to just get over it and only made comments the first two times we saw them after telling them. Otherwise there's also been a lot of "oh my sister and I are 15 months apart and loved it!", etc. I know it may be hard, but try not to let others ruin the joyful time ahead. :

All if this. I get judged ALL THE TIME... it's no one elese business.  I do have my moments where i want to punch someone for being so ignorant, but for the most part I can remember that this is MY family, not theirs. 

Vitnicki83

We got comments and continue to get comments from strangers.  It wasn't too bad with the first 2 (they are just under a year apart).  When we got PG with #3 (year between #2 and #3) the comments, from strangers especially, really increased. 

I just have to remember what PP said:  This is our family, not theirs.  Who cares what they think.  I am so thankful for all of my babies, they are such a blessing.  While it can be (very) stressful at times, I wouldn't change it for anything!!!

Congratulations and good luck!

AlyssaRoseKeane

I've still only told 2 people other than the father, and my son is 1 already. I'm still feeling kind of embarrassed about this second pregnancy. It's really bother me that I'm feeling embarrassed and not excited, but I just haven't been able to bring myself to tell everyone yet. 

 

Now that I'm starting to show more and more everyday, I know I'll have to tell them ASAP, but I just haven't come to that point yet...

frogluver54

That's when you tell people that make rather rude comments, well, it's not you so don't worry about it. I know people will look at me funny sometimes when I tell them we're having another which will make 2 under 2 and I'll flat out say, "Don't worry, it was planned," and I totally catch them off guard. It's actually kind of fun...haha. People can think whatever they want...as long as YOU'RE happy,  that's all that matters!!! And CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!

Quiverfull Momma

You can't even imagine the crap we get when we announce another blessing is on his/her way.  We're expecting our 10th in December, and when the judgmental comments come I simply say "We couldn't be more blessed or excited to welcome another life into our home, but thanks anyways for your concern".  At least that's what I say when I'm in a GOOD mood LOL!  I have been known to come back with a few more colorful remarks on my bad days;)  Congrats momma!