ex husband is snooping in my room when looking after the baby!!!

andrew's_bride

We've been separated for a year and a half, and he still does not have a place he can take baby. Hes really lazy, and would rather sponge off of someone else than take care of himself.... He is debt free, but tells everyone he has no money because I took everything (I have all of the debt because everything was in my name because he screwed up his credit.... and then tried to work on mine.....) So  I let him stay at my house when he watches the baby when I work. Which I think is above what most people would do. We are very civil, and get along quite well as friends. But, lately I;ve been noticing when hes watching the baby while I am at work, he goes into my room and snoops!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've confronted him before, so he knows I know, and, of course, he lied and said he wasn't. But I watch where I put certain things, and he moves them and tries to put them back... I put stuff infront of the door, so when the door opens, it moves, and he tries to put it back... I only did this to prove that he was snooping because I thought well maybe I'm wrong.... but tonight, not only was he in my room, but he snooped....um.....in my toy box!!!!!!!!!!!!! There is something wrong with this kid! I had the box in another box, with stuff on top of it.... and he was in it!!!!!!! I am going to have to put a lock on my own bedroom in my own house????? Seriously!?????? I can't say he has to take her somewhere else because he won't, and its better for her to be at her house with her stuff and her bed. He doesn't even have a toy for her at his house. She has never been to his house. But holy crap, this is frusterating and insane! What do you guys think of this!!!!!!! I don't go around saying stuff (even though its true!) about him to people in my life because I think its bad for DD, so I am venting here.... sorry..... just totally disgusted right now!

andrew's_bride

We don't have a CO. We just made it work for us. I have her full time, he has full access. Whenever he wants to see her, he just lets me know. I've never said no. Even with full access, he watches her when I need him to (if I work evenings or weekends) and other than that, sees her for a few hours a week, and everyone thinks hes a damn hero. LOL He has never taken her overnight, let alone for a weekend. And when he does have her, he usually takes her to his moms or his sisters (so they can do some of the work) during the day, or comes to my place to visit her. He won't take her to his place. He has no bed or toys or anything for her, because he'd rather have everyone in town feel bad for him and tell everyone he has no money and no place to take dd. But  most people know the difference. I don't even have to tell the truth about him (I don't say anything about any of it to anyone but my mom.) He is extremely lazy. I don't even think he pays rent where he is living now.... :S So this turned into another vent LOL Sorry... haha! like I say, I don't let it out much, so I guess this is the place its gonna come out haha :S

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andrew's_bride

Oh I have no doubt the situation will not work long term. It is supposed to be a short term thing until he gets a place, (his words) but I know he won't until his gf gets a place, and she doesn't have a job. Oh yeah. Real winners..... Yes, the courts can force him to take her, but I think that if he has to be forced to take her, then he shouldn't have her. I let him have her whenever he wants, and he only asks for her once a week for a few hours, usually between meals so he doesn't have to feed her. If that's all he wants, I don't feel she would benefit from the courts forcing him to take her longer. The guy won't even bath her when hes watching her when I work evenings unless I specifically tell him to. He doesn't parent at all, he just cuddles with her and sits in front of the tv or takes her to his moms or sisters.

DarthNBJenni

Get a court order and have him take the baby to the library, McDonalds, the mall, the park, his parents' house - anywhere but your place.