November 2012 Moms
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Let's talk DH duties.....
chpswife
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Mine has one he must do while I'm pg....Change the cat litter. I bought the stuff so just do it!!!! It's gross and it's driving me crazy! Change the *** already!!! Seriously this is all he has to do.......:I clean laundry cook oh I think I'm pg too....step up buddy!!! What are your DH's duties right now
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Re: Let's talk DH duties.....
Nothing has changed.
He still cooks and cleans and plays with LO. I still cook and clean and take care of LO.
Although...! I did tell him that after baby comes he will have to give DD her baths! He objected, but I'm not sure I'll be able to do it, it'll be too hard to get down that low! Lol
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We bought a Cat Genie when I was first pregnant with DD1, because I KNEW that he would slack. It was an expensive purchase, but has now paid for itself, because you only need a cartridge every other month or so, and a box of litter will last almost a year.
Ok, my DH's duties:
1. We've hired a cleaning lady to come every other Friday... he pays for that
2. He does all laundry (that does not include putting it away. He's a man and doesn't know where ANYTHING goes, esp. DD1's things)
3. If I cook and it's my turn to feed DD1, he has to do the dishes
4. He is responsible for all garbage and recycling
Our first family photo!
2. Put out trash/recycling once a week
3. Carry laundry downstairs when I ask
4. I cook, he cleans
Really he's been pretty fantastic. I did get a little upset last night when I found a very nice hand towel ruined by bleach because he was too lazy to move it from the sink when he dumped mop water.
ETA: 5. Cat boxes
He's been so wonderful though, trash out, mows yard, does dishes, cooks when I don't feel like it, puts baby's things together, spends time with me and my family, manger full time at his work, helps me paint the house, and still makes time to run and play his video games ;] lol
2. We trade on and off for cooking
3. Cat box. My husband didn't believe me he needs to clean it out daily or every other day at most (we have 2 cats and 2 boxes). He failed and the cat peed on the floor. He has learned his lesson.
4. He's always...I mean always working on some kind of project around the house.
JHB 1/19/09
Baby girl due 11/22/12!
I stopped fighting this battle with him years ago. It caused stupid arguments and I got so tired of being mad about cleaning duties. So, I hired a cleaning lady. She and her crew come every Friday. They clean my house floor to ceiling, take care of the dishes and any laundry needing done. It is by far the best money I spend on a weekly basis - and guess what...my husband and I haven't fought about cleaning in 5 years :-)
Edit: We live in the mountains. Our landscaping is natural, so there is no upkeep. We have someone come clean the windows and gutters every 6 months, and spray down the house.
He's still on food duty - shopping/cooking/planning is his big thing. Though we're briefly without kitchen, so it's "get the kitchen finished so we can get back to cooking".
The only thing he's had to take over is hauling things up and down stairs. I just can't balance as well carrying things anymore, so the laundry needs to get hauled by someone else. I've been doing some decluttering and cleaning, and he needs to haul the garbage, too.
Our situation is kind of "different". MH found out he got a second full time job exactly two days after we got the BFP. So he works every.single.day. (Weekends from 5AM to 5:30PM and weekdays 9AM-7PM)... So, IMO, both of our worlds changed drastically around the same time. He's just as tired as I am most of the time. Since I have had a fairly easy pregnancy, I feel like I should be doing just as many chores as he.
Before he got the second job, he did ALL of the housework, quite frankly, I was spoiled. But now, we both just do what we can, when we can. The only plus side, I guess, is that he's rarely home so if there is a mess, it's usually mine.
I get two days off a week and I do all the laundry and dishes those two days... sweeping and other miscellaneous chores get done randomly throughout the week. We share the job of letting our dogs outside. He takes out the trash and recycling, and sometimes I'll carry the bins back up to the house after they're emptied. I do one big shopping trip once every week and a half or so, and if we happen to need something between that trip, he will pick it up at the store.
I guess chores were never specifically divided among the two of us and we are both very relaxed on the subject. If something is bothering either of us, we aren't afraid to speak up nicely about it: "Lover butt, see the trash? See how it's overflowing?"
Or "Hey babe... when you decide you're not going to wear something, don't you think it'd be better if you hung it back up??"
Annnnyway, I'm "behind" now because he just took a week long vacation and completely knocked out the nursery and other random projects around the house....soooo, if anyone is slacking, it's me.
I figure, I've only got a couple more weeks to get anything done... and that time frame is narrowing fast as I start to get more and more uncomfortable.
The "magical" husband magically kidnaps his wife's account in The Bump and adds: "I bring her French toasts in bed, too!"