DH not on board, do I do it anyway?
Sorry it's CD related again. I spoke to DH about wanting to give it a try and he's not too excited about it and would rather not do it. He said that yes, it's a great way to save some $$ but that it's not THAT big of a difference either and that it adds more inconvenience that anything else.
We are a team and talk things over and don't go doing something if the other one isn't on board but I feel like I need to give this a try and either see that it's not for me, or have him see how great it is. We've never done it, so I feel like we can't make the decision based on speculation.
So do I go and buy a few anyway and just give it a try? I also don't like his argument of doing extra laundry and how I sometimes can't keep up with it now. A-if you don't do it you don't have the right to say anything about it and B-why don't you help out a bit more???
I don't want to just disregard his opinion but I want to do this!!!!
Re: DH not on board, do I do it anyway?
We went through a similar discussion at my house. Ultimately, I got real with myself about just how helpful H would be with something that he said he didn't want to do in the first place -- not too helpful. By the way, I'm not saying that he is right or wrong for not helping (as I speculate would happen) with something that he said upfront that he was againt doing. I had to decide if it was something that I could tackle on my own and ultimately, I decided that it just wasn't going to work. I guess where I'm going with this is that I don't think it hurts to try it if it is very important to you, but, if you end up single handedly taking on all of the extra responsibilities associated with it, I don't think it is fair to be upset or surprised by it.
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2010 Race PRs:
5K - 24:57 10M - 1:28:20 13.1M - 1:57:29 26.2M - 4:28:29
Oh I didn't mean to say that I would ask him to help with the diapers. It was more of a comment that he's deciding for ME if it's too much work and he was so annoyed by it as if it was going to be a burden on him. I NEVER said that he'd have to do the laundry if we ended up CDing. I was trying to say that if it's something you don't every do then you shouldn't be saying it's not doable. And he didn't say it in a way "I don't want you working even more". I hope I"m explaining this correctly.
So no, I'm not upset or surprised if he didn't do any of it. I'm more upset that he's dismissing something he won't be dealing with anyway and he doesn't know how it would work anyway.. Know what I mean?
I just feel like I'd like to give it a try. And who knows maybe it will be too much to handle and not the right thing for us....
I hear you. That said...
H and I had a discussion about pet ducks that was pretty much the complete opposite of the CDs.
H: "Let's buy thirty baby ducks to raise!"
BL: "But I don't feel like taking care of ducks. The dog and DD are enough!"
H: "You don't have to do anything. I'll take care of them."
BL: "Whatever dude. Get your ducks."
Two weeks later...
H: "I'm going on a business trip for two weeks. This is what you need to do to take care of the ducks..."
Duke's House: Eating and Running with the Big Dog in Chennai: eatrunbrit.com
2010 Race PRs:
5K - 24:57 10M - 1:28:20 13.1M - 1:57:29 26.2M - 4:28:29
LMAO!!!! oohhh nooooo!!
Yeah... I just want to give it a try. And the changing isn't a big deal for him at all. I'm lucky that he's not grossed out by puke or poop or anything like that.
Yes, do this.
I think doing a trial makes a lot more sense than buying diapers. It's also more fair to your H, since you're not sinking a huge amount of money in a trial (especially if you want to do pocket diapers or AIOs that can cost $15-$20 per diaper). Then you can try it and see how it works for you. Your H might be more willing to switch when he sees how much nicer they are to use - something that's often not discussed when considering the switch. We have much less stink and much fewer blowouts when using cloth!
The 7-part Youtube Series "Cloth Diapering 101" is what convinced my DH, who felt the same way.
That being said, we did end up stopping CDing after 5 months because my own research showed that it was not actually environmentally sound at all! This was the main reason I wanted to do it, not cost. Of course, this is mostly due to my inefficient laundry practices (several hot water washes due to my neuroses, dryer loads, all that energy really adds up)... If that is your primary concern as well it is something to keep in mind
A service may cost $ but is actually the best in terms of carbon footprint.
I'd be interested to know where you got your info about cloth diapering being as environmentally unfriendly as disposables. I think using a few extra loads of washing isn't as bad as putting chemical filled disposables to rot for a couple hundred years. The dryer does use more energy than the washer, but if you're concerned about the environment, line drying is a great alternative. Sure, there are resources used to make the cloth diapers, but I'd imagine it's a lot less than what's used to make the thousands of disposables generally used per baby. Especially since cloth diapers can be resold and used for another baby.
I'm sure you've got sound reasons for not cloth diapering anymore, but I don't buy the argument that they are just as environmentally unsound as disposables.