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Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
Preemie ID DDs; then DS; then natural M/C; now due 10/17
High risk for pre-term: weekly Makena injections
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1. The risk to my life is lower with a VBAC than with a RCS, and the thought of DD growing up without her mom scares the crap out of me.
2. I want to be able to pick up and care for DD and LO asap after delivery.
3. BFing didn't work out for me with DD. I pumped for 2 months before giving up because my supply was awful and we had to supplement anyway. There were a lot of contributing factors, but I want to eliminate as many as possible to give myself as good a chance as possible at successfully BFing this LO.
4. I want my DH and I to determine together the size of our family and not be told by a doctor that another c/s would be too risky (and if I have another c/s, my hospital does not allow VBA2Cs, so it would only be c/s from there on out).
5. I'd like to at least try to have a vaginal birth experience. With DD I never even got to labor (unplanned c/s due to HELLP).
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
There were several factors. I didn't want to recover from a c/s while taking care of a toddler. I didn't want to undergo major surgery if it was unnecessary. I knew that both RCS and VBAC carried risks, and I was more comfortable with the risks of the VBAC.
It's an incrediblly hard decision and good luck when deciding. I contemplated many points before making my decision like recovery and all that, but the emotional side of things is what really made the decision hard for me.
I watched a movie on birth and listened to a panel of "professionals" discuss how when a dog has a c-section they are unable to love thier puppy. Thus, women who have c-sections love thier child less than if they delivered it. OMG ARE YOU KIDDING ME! This was the worst thing I have ever heard. This went back and forth in my mind with me debating what I should do. If they were right- then I'm a bad mother now because I don't love my son enough. (how is that even possible, he is the light of my world) If they are right, what happens if I DO love my second child more that my first (maybe I should just to a RCS so I end up not loving both of them the same....?) It was a crazy debate of insanity that went through my mind. I kept reading articles on why c-sections are bad and began to believe it.
When it came down to it, I had to decide why do I want to have a VBAC. The number one reason was I wanted to have a vivid, sobar, realistic memory of my babies first moments in the world. With my first son, I was seeing double, flying high, foot loose and fancy free. Then he got sent to a nother hospital and I didn't get to see him for 48 hours, I didn't get to hold him for 10 days. Those few moments right away were cruitial in my bonding expierence with my son and all I remember was giggleing because there were two of him. With my second son I can remember joy, disbelief that I was capible of doing it, disbelief that he was healthy more joy, shock that enviroment was so realaxed and JOYFUL. My c-section was an emergency one so maybe scheduled ones are more relaxed, but I can't imagine a better feeling than holding my little one and breathing him in those first few moments.
After 16 months now, I can definately say that I dont love one child more than the other. I wont deny that there are days when one is better behaved than the other, but I love them so incredibly much you can't tell which way they were born. Thier births are completely different and they are completely different, but they are what fills my heart.